Relationship Support and Recovery,
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for under 35s - OJar.com™

You are not a freak! This year in the USA, 2,200,000 (2.2 million) people under the age of 35 will go through a divorce or breakup and change their relationship status.

When it happened to me, I felt alone. I found nothing available in the bookshops, Internet or library for our age group. Somehow no-one had created a support network for young people divorcing.

I found myself young, divorced, lonely and confused. And nowhere was there something to help me cope with the private hell in my head.

I kept thinking. Don't only old people get divorced? People with kids, mortgages, houses, and assets? Surely, it happened only to people that married after only knowing their partner for a short time?

Or maybe, those that only got married under pressure, a pregnant partner, a visa requirement, family pressure, cultural, peer group or other pressure? The overwhelming answer was, NO!

How about uneducated people, blue-collar workers, fat, lazy, ugly, embarrassing, insensitive people? Still NO!

See, how the list can go on and on and somehow you don't feel you fit the list.

In short, "Divorce" was supposed to happen to others, NOT me. I'm different, I felt, somehow I didn't want myself to be tagged as a 'divorcee'. A word I felt which labeled me a failure.

I kept asking, where is the recognition in our society that THIS can happen to two educated, people that have lived together for a long time with nice jobs, a nice home, no unreasonable financial pressures etc. etc. etc?

Why if more than 50% of marriages fail (15% within the first year) did I feel like a freak?

You are not alone. You are not a black sheep. You are not the product of moral decay. Your divorce will not infect other marriages and lead to mass divorce.

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