Have you ever been so close that < blank >?
Have you ever worked really hard on something only to see if fail
at the last minute for reasons beyond your control?
For the last 4 months I have been working on an important project.
It cost me quite a bit of money and time.
The exact project details aren’t important but I want to share with
you something I learned about myself and those around me in the
process.
For months others and myself worked hard. We had weekly
sometimes-daily meetings to help resolve issues and deal with
unexpected problems.
Then at the last moment everything unraveled and we had to put a
stop to the project.
Can you imagine the feeling of disappoints and frustration?
These types of setbacks can really send you for a “loop”.
You really begin to question your abilities and was that effort
really worth it.
After beating myself up for a week and whining like a school child
to anyone that would listen to my tale of woe someone really
important to me made a really important point.
Her comment was this…
“I know you can do this again and finish this time. How? Well you
came SO close.”
This floored me.
What a concept!
If you can get so close only to see it all go to pieces at the last
minute why not *try again* and this time prevent the problem from
occurring.
If you or someone you care for has recently failed at something
important, remind them *how close they got* and how with a little
effort next time they *can succeed*.
Gail Devers said, “Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve
anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work,
determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for
those who believe.”
Do you live in an “as is” or “should be” world?
Hi,
As you can imagine I get a lot of emails from people on the
Internet. While I am happy to get feedback there are just not
enough hours in the day for me to reply to each individually.
A common theme struck me this week as I reviewed some of the emails
I had received.
Some people agreed with what I had said but there were a few that
felt, “Michael you might be right BUT…”
Unless I am mistaken, the BUT all but ignores anything I have just
stated so I am going to call this post, are you living in a “should
be” or a “as is” world?
It goes something like this…
On most issues of importance the world can be divided basically in
those that strongly see things how they are or how they should be.
Let me share an example.
As many of you know I publish a report called, “Get Over Your Ex”.
It is about 50 pages and sets out a series of 21-steps that I
regard essential to overcoming heartache.
It can be found here,
http://nocontactrule.com/
Now these steps are based on my own observations and for hundreds
of people the steps have helped enormously. I frequently get emails
thanking me for the product.
But then there are those that have never read the product that
write, “if you have something helpful then you should be giving it
away without charge”. Their argument is essentially information
should never have a cost and more importantly the Internet is a
no-cost environment. In other words, they argue their position from a
perspective of the way the world “should be”.
The “as is” people know that time taken to create something should
be rewarded. They also know that “you get what you pay for” and if
the item were given away it would probably never be read.
Now I know this is a simple example but this also happens in
relationships. An example from the emails I get is, “my partner
treats me very badly but he/she LOVES me”. They then ask in the
email, what should I do?
If you live in the world of, “as is” the answer is obvious and it
requires no answer from me.
However, if you live in the world of “should be” then you’re
probably thinking, love conquers all and it is only time before
this nasty person comes to their senses and starts treating you the
way they are SUPPOSED to treat you.
See the difference?
I won’t labor the point but next time you confront someone
complaining about a situation (this includes yourself) ask
yourself, is this person living in the world of “as is” or “should
be”.
Talk soon,
Michael.
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