Divorce Support and Recovery,
Advice, Tips and Statistics
for under 35s - OJar.com™
Previous OJAR Divorce Statistics and Poll Results
Compiled by the author of "How To Save Thousands on Your Divorce" - www.divorcingsecrets.com
Q) How often do you think about your EX?
Every few hours = 63.2 %
Every few days = 17.2 %
Every few weeks = 5.7 %
Every few months = 6.9 %
Other = 4.6 %
Total Votes = 75
Q) What should the minimum age for marriage be?
16-18 2 (8%)
19-21 0 (0%)
22-25 4 (16%)
26-30 12 (50%)
31-35 6 (25%)
36+ 0 (0%)
Never? 0 (0%)
Total Votes: 24
Marriage and Divorce Survey - Results so far - 41 replies.
Not all questions were mandatory so some answers < 100%
Numbers in "(x)" are votes.
1. How long were you married?
<6 months. (0)
6 months - 11 months 4.9% (2)
1 - 2 years 14.6% (6)
3 - 4 years 22.0% (9)
5 - 6 years 12.2% (5)
7- 8 years 22.0% (9)
9 and more 22.0% (9)
TOTAL 97.6% 41
2. How long did you date before getting married?
< 6 months 9.8% (4)
7 - 11 months 12.2% (5)
1 - 2 years 41.5% (17)
3 - 4 years 22.0% (9)
5 - 6 years 9.8% (4)
7 years and longer 2.4% (1)
TOTAL 97.6% 41
3. Did you live together before getting married?
Yes 73.2% (30)
No 24.4% (10)
TOTAL 97.6% 41
4. If yes, how long did you live together before marriage?
< 6 months 17.1% (7)
7 - 11 months 14.6% (6)
1 - 2 years 31.7% (13)
3 - 4 years 7.3% (3)
5 - 6 years 2.4% (1)
7 years and longer 2.4% (1)
TOTAL 75.6% 41
5. How did you meet your partner (ex)?
through work 26.8% (11)
through faith/community eg. church (0)
through friends 24.4% (10)
matchmaker/internet 2.4% (1)
school/college 17.1% (7)
Other: at a party 2.4% (1)
Other: bar 4.9% (2)
Other: Bar 2.4% (1)
Other: brothers friend 2.4% (1)
Other: club 2.4% (1)
Other: Daily Herald Connections 2.4% (1)
Other: McDonalds drive-thru 2.4% (1)
Other: party 2.4% (1)
Other: paths crossed I was working she was on vacation 2.4% (1)
Other: sister 2.4% (1)
Other: softball tournament 2.4% (1)
6. What attracted you to your partner (ex)?
looks 43.9% (18)
smile 26.8% (11)
personality 65.9% (27)
humor 31.7% (13)
charm 19.5% (8)
Other: he seemed nice 2.4% (1)
Other: intellect 2.4% (1)
Other: It was that "feeling" 2.4% (1)
7. Would you marry again?
Yes 78.0% (32)
No 19.5% (8)
TOTAL 97.6% 41
8. If yes, what would cause you to marry again?
# Response
1 Because despite all the "crap" I went through, I still believe
in love.
1 Being in love and knowing I want to spend my life with someone.
1 Children
1 Everything that was missing from my 1st marriage. Intimacy, open communication,
fun, and similar interests.
1 Finding a better soulmate.
1 Finding a girl who shares my beliefs in committment and makes me happy more
often than she makes me sad.
1 Finding a partner whose company I enjoy, whom I respect, and who wants the
same things I life that I do.
1 finding someone that I could love and trust with all my heart and that I
was happy with.
1 Finding someone who wants to share/build a life with me. You know, family,
growing old together etc.
1 i am not ready to give up on love and marriage just yet.
1 I am not sure if I will marry again, but I didn't want to rule it out by
putting no. It would have to be a pretty miraculous person to get past my
distrust and my enjoyment of being single.
1 I deserve a second chance
1 I loved being married, just wish it would have lasted. I hate the single
life already, just want to grow old with someone, someone that IS right for
me!
1 I loved that married feeling, what I shared with my ex is something I still
want, just because she changed her mind doesn't mean I have. I am however
a little nervous of thinking of it just yet, way way way too early to even
think about marriage, Still working on "ME"
1 I wanted to be married and enjoy experiencing life with my intimate partner.
I also want to build a family of my own.
1 I'd need to be at the right stage in my personal life, and the other person
would have to meet some very high standards.
1 I've learned a lot about myself and about relationships. I know I'll have
a much clearer idea of myself and what I want and need in a relationship and
what to look for in a partner.
1 If I met the right person
1 Love
1 love, honesty, friendship
1 love, respect, companionship
1 Marriage is great but I think I will only get married again if my partner
and I decide to have children.
1 Meeting someone that I fall in love with
1 Meeting someone that makes me want to trust again.
1 Meeting the right person.
1 Proper communication skills on both sides.
1 right person
1 The fact that maybe I have learned from this experience.
1 The right person, one who fits in with the lessons I learned about myself
and marriage.
9. If no, why not?
# Response
1 After being married that long and thinking everything was great, I would
be looking over my shoulder all the time wondering when the rug was going
to get pulled out from under me again.
1 At the moment, I am unsure what constitutes a good marriage and don't want
to continue to make the same mistakes. This is marriage number 2 and I can't
go through divorce number 3.
1 He didn't love me.
1 I have already been married twice, I see no reason to do it again!
1 I've been burned too many times. I am tired of being cheated on.
1 Lonliness is better than pain
1 Never want to be in this situation again.
1 There is no point. Things haved changed so much that it is just easier to
"shack up" and keep your financial matters etc. seperate.
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