Rebuilding Trust OldSchool: It's an ongoing thing with me to regain the trust I had in myself and with others closest to me. It hasn't been an easy thing to face, because it's taken me some time to put it all together.
My own issues of trust would stem from who really knows my everyday thoughts. The more I'd open up again, the easier it got. It's something I work on each and every day, and it's really funny how at times I'll feel like not opening up then suddenly it's like the floodgates open. :) In any case, it feels good to know that I've come that far.
The trust that I put into people that are closest to me is also an ongoing thing. Change is the only constant I know for certain and so are people's relationships. Is there a way to measure that trust in others again? Is it all a calculated risk or does our past mistakes give us more information about how to approach it in the future?
Just something I've been mulling before my first cup of coffee.....
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Re:Rebuilding Trust CPmommy:
Something I've been mulling over as well...
I've always had a problem opening up to people because, historically, whatever I've confided has been used against me at some point in the future. This makes it hard for me to trust.
Incidentally, I find it is easier for me to open up to "brand new" people in my life than it is to open up to those I have close relationships with. There's no history of betrayal there.
Re:Rebuilding Trust teacherwriterguy: I was thinking about MTMO's comment in the other post you had - the one about control?
I think if you build enough trust in yourself to know that you can handle what life throws at you, then it's less intimidating to consider trusting others.
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Re:Rebuilding Trust JimB: I also think our ability to trust naturally tends to ebb and flow a bit. There's not always an easy explanation for why this is - "it just is" has become an acceptable explanation for me.
Lately, I've noticed myself clamming up a bit, which happens when my ability to trust is low. It doesn't bother me as much as it bothers those close to me, who seem to genuinely want access to whatever is bugging me so they can help me with it. I'm a big proponent of solving my own problems, though. Is that a trust issue?
Re:Rebuilding Trust LostTeacher: my problem is that i give a lot of trust very easy. i don't really worry too much about it. now i feel betrayed, because this person abused my trust, and now i don't know what to think. i feel taken advantage of. but that doesn't mean i don't want to trust someone else. i really do. i want to do it. but it's going to take some time. i just wish that i could move on as quickly as he has...being able to date and stuff already, and we are not even seperated on paper yet.
