Feels guilty about one night stand and left Lisa80: Here is my story:
I am 24 yrs old, I've been married for 2 yrs, but have been with my husband for 7 yrs.
My husband and I had planned our vacation to his country for Thanksgiving weekend, but at the last minute I was not able to go due to school. I encouraged him to go with the rest of his family, so he did. When he came back I noticed him acting a little strange, but never paid much attention to it. Two weeks back from his trip there was a family emergency and he had to travel back once again alone. One month went by and then he came back. He seemed so sad and diffrent when he was back and when i would ask what was wrong he would say he was just sad about the family tragedy. Five days later he confessed that while on his frist trip he had a one night stand with a long time friend, but wait that's not the worse part it get's better he tells me she's PREGNANT!!!!!! We have no children because we were waiting for the right time. I forgave him on the spot and said we could work things out because I LOVE him and beleived Love can conquer all. He seemed to be remorseful of the whole thing. A week later he moved out telling me he felt bad about what he had done and couldn't be with me while he felt this way so he left. Everytime i would ask him why he said he just can't be with me until he feels better. I forgave him and am willing to work through this, but he seems to not be able to forgive himself. Now we've been apart for 2 months and just started counseling. He tells me he wants to work things out with me and has no feelings for this other woman, but will be responsible if the child is his. The're waiting DNA results. Before all this we were a happy couple and now it seems things will never be the same by this i mean we'll never be happy like before.
Please advise ???
Re:Feels guilty about one night stand and left KeyWestCorona: This man is a moron, first of all. Anyone who is fool enough to cheat should never accept his guilt for it. Coming clean and telling you takes all the burden off himself and lays so much hurt on you. If he loved you, he would have never opened his trap unless the other woman was threatening to say something. I apolgize in advance to you Lisa, but I maye be about to step on toes. This guy is a coward. How could he "move out" because he feels so bad. If YOU, the one he cheated on can cope, why the hell is he being so nervy. He cleansed his conscience! Did it not have the desired effect? Is he not free of guilt??? His conscience cleaning only hurt you and he STILL can't deal with it. This man is spineless and deserves a far worse fate than he will recieve, I am afraid. Why on earth should you be made to suffer this when you did nothing wrong. This is his burden. He should have been a man about it and accepted it. This only brought more pain and misery into an already bad situation.
Re:Feels guilty about one night stand and left Phyxius: KeyWestCorona -
That was highly judgemental and not the least bit helpful. How about dialing the vitriol a few dozen levels?
Hmmmmm?
Re:Feels guilty about one night stand and left tyrogers: Oh wow girl. Go to my first post and read it. You might want to read some of the responses I got as well. Might help you out.
God knows my prayers are with you. I have been there.
((((BIG BIG HUGS))))
BBH - Tyleena ("Ty")
Way Down South in 'Bama
Re:Feels guilty about one night stand and left snowyheart: Hi lisa,
I'm leaning heavily in keywest's direction. He should be at your beck and call trying to do everything in his power to make this easier on you. He doesn't seem like he's truly owning up to what he's done. Not to you.
Your husband has done serious damage to your marriage.
DNA test? Wow, is the OW promiscuos or something?
Don't let him dictate this situation, you have every right to lay down the law.
We're here for you.
snowyheart
