Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs 2tadpoles: My husband didn't cheat because anything is wrong with me. I was a good wife to him and a good mom. I wasn't one of those women who demanded total control of the purse-strings, forbid him from having friends or going out, or never wanted sex.
My husband looked for happiness outside of the marriage because things got stale, and he was too lazy and immature to work at making our marriage a happy one. He thinks happiness is a fish you can catch. He doesn't realize that marriage is work, and that happily-ever-after won't happen with anyone unless effort is expended.
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs ww9111: [quote author=2tadpoles link=board=20;threadid=10041;start=0#msg80247 date=1113417799"> He thinks happiness is a fish you can catch. He doesn't realize that marriage is work, and that happily-ever-after won't happen with anyone unless effort is expended.
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Perhaps I should have you call my stbxw and communicate that idea to her. She seemed to feel that since we got married and it wasn't perfect right away that it was ok to go cheat on me and destroy the marriage. All because in a period of one month things weren't perfect. ARGH! (Yes, she was cheating less than a month after we married)
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs pauly: Are you girls all actually ready for a new relationship,I mean what's wrong with taking time out and re evaluating your status.
The old cliche must apply somewhere"someone comes along when you least expect",at most likely the appropriate time.
I'm fairly certain you are all attractive,intelligent people and the cause of your relationship breakdown was uniformly split but you shouldn't worry too much about the immediate future.
I hope it works out for you guys anyhow
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs LettinGo: [quote author=pauly link=board=20;threadid=10041;start=0#msg80254 date=1113419182">
Are you girls all actually ready for a new relationship,I mean what's wrong with taking time out and re evaluating your status.
The old cliche must apply somewhere"someone comes along when you least expect",at most likely the appropriate time.
I'm fairly certain you are all attractive,intelligent people and the cause of your relationship breakdown was uniformly split but you shouldn't worry too much about the immediate future.
I hope it works out for you guys anyhow
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Pauly,
I actually am not concerned about the 'immediate future' ... more like the distant future. It is disheartening to see people ten and twenty years older and still alone ... I am just afraid that that will be me. I am afraid that, like I said earlier, I gave myself to someone that did not work out, and he will move on and live happily ever after, and I will never experience true love.
Might sound silly, but we girls get in that mood sometimes. ;)
Re:Backsliding ... stupid sad songs pauly: LG and all
That may be so but you can't force anything.You've loved before and it will happen again.
My point was; why worry?
Work on you and kids if they apply.Make yourself happy first but remember things take time.
