Should we go or not?
Have a dilema. For my husbands Christmas present last year I bought him 2 tickets to see a concert that he really wants to go and see. One ticket for him and one for me.
Well the concert is in 4 weeks time and I have the tickets. I have said to him that I understand if he doesn't want to go with me and that he can have the tickets, but he said that it is something that we had arranged before we split up and that he would still really like to go with me.
I dont have a problem with going with him because I was really looking forward to it and was kind of hoping that he would still want me to come but he now has everyone on his back telling him that he shouldn't and that he should let me get on with my life.
I have also found out that he has no intetion of telling his new gf that he is going with me because of her jealousy. Get this, he has just gone on line and she has banned him from giving me his new e-mail address. She is really bothered by me. He has had to hide all the wedding photo's and old photo's that he has of me in his house so that she doesn't find them because otherwise she will loose her temper with him, and apparantly they are already having arguments over me.
Anyway do you think that I should still go? It will be my one and only time to see this concert and like I say I have no problems, it's just him who will have problems with her.
Other problem though is that there is a chance that we will not get home that night as it finnishes really late and the last train home leaves at midnight and there will be 30,000 people all trying to get out and to the stations at the same time. His g/f works late shifts and will be getting home at about 2:15am. If he isn't there then there will be some serious problems for him.
Kind of another reason that I want to go just to be there to watch it all fall apart, I know that sounds a bit sadistic doesn't it? ;D
Re:Should we go or not? isotope: I think you should go, I might be wrong, but I see no reason not to. Go out, have fun, enjoy the concert. Let us know what you decide !! And if you go, let us know how the concert was !
Re:Should we go or not? AmyMarie1972: Hi,
Thanks. Well just spoke to him on the phone and he has said that he is going to tell the new g/f that he is going with me and if she doesn't like it then tough luck he is deffinately going with me because i did say to him again that they are his tickets and he can go with someone else if he wants to.
Well will just see if it stays the same because i did warn him that if I get all ready and really looking forward to going and he drops the bomb that he has decided to change his mind then I will never forgive him.
He says no he has made his mind up and he is sticking with it.
Will just have to see!
Amy
Re:Should we go or not? ddgissi: Oh AmyMarie,
Don't go. As we know from reading these boards, you just need to keep living a life without him. Not that you aren't, but why go anywhere with him? Remember, there are people who will treat you well and lovingly, and why would you want to spend any time with HIM?
I can't imagine this being a really terrific night. Just give him the tickets and go out that night with your friends and see a great movie.
And get her on a Jehovah's Witness mailing list if you feel like a little innocuous revenge...Sounds like she could use some advice!
Just my 2 cents'...
Re:Should we go or not? AmyMarie1972: Hi Dd,
We have four kids so I see him every day anyway, and I like that we are friends. I feel as though our relationship may have died but we never lost the friendship which is great especially for the kids, because it still means that we go out as a family together, we even go shopping together, and we still have a laugh together.
Only problem is that everybody else see's this as wrong, including his and my mothers. I don't understand why. He doesn't either. I have finally accepted that the relationship has ended but we have both said that we will always love eachother and we want to stay as friends.
The only problem with going to the concert together is his new g/f is going to be really jealous and not want him to go, which will probably cause arguments between them. Neither his of my mom is going to approve which will make it so that we get problems from them.
But he still wants to go with me. It will be fun and maybe I will meet someone there.
Amy
