Erum? galil: Ok this post wil probebly get deleted from the BBS BY Michael but I am gonna post anyways couse I am drunk :)
I must be a bad human being. So like this girl I have been dating for a while now has decided to be just like my ex wife and leave me for another man :)
WOOT WOOT for me this guy was supposed to be my friend. this person was supposed to be different. She said she was anyways :(
Now I know what it feels like to have your friend take your woman from you :) Chalk one more thing up that I can learn from and grow from hehe.
Does it ever end? I guess not. I think some people are just supposed to be sh!t on there whole lives, That me BTW :)
I think I am going to fnish off what beer I haveand wollow in my self pitty lol. I guess I am lucky to at least have the luxury to be left again, as some of you here are still wondering will you ever find anyone else I thought I kinda did and maybe could be happy once more.
Oh well have a beer on me and realize that it may for some of us never get any better :(
Re:Erum? Jernigan: Man oh man, do stories like these ever get my blood boiling and roiling. What's wrong with people? And I'm talking more about your supposed "friend," not the woman. I'll tell you why: when dating or in semi-serious relationships, men and women leave one another all the time. Before getting married, I was dumped plenty of times, and I also dumped women plenty of times---it's worked out fairly evenly, in fact. I think you and I and probably most of us, Galil, are in a place right now where we're much more sensitive about this phenomenon, and lack the protective skills that ordinary "daters" learn to acquire. In other words, the wound your marriage left wasn't yet healed, and this incident seemed to nick off the scab, if only temporarily. Ordinarily, I'd say, this incident would be upsetting, sure, but not as much as it is now, in your predicament. Hope this makes sense. It doesn't mean your luck has gone bad---just something that happened at a time that makes you feel that way. Believe me, I'd react in a similar fashion, beer and cussing and all.
Now the friend, that's a different story. I've had friends come and go, but I'm fortunate to have five or six that remain consistent, no matter what---friendships that have lasted at least a dozen years, through many good and bad times. REAL FRIENDS. I've had friends betray me in the past, stab me in the back, but I wrote these things off as a hard-won lesson; well, now I knew they weren't friends after all, and this made me appreciate my stable coterie of friends all the more.
Take care, galil...
Re:Erum? barelybreathing: Wait a minute here G, I am not going to let you wallow too much here.....
To defend the other side a little bit, this girl that you have been dating, well you DID make it clear that you were not ready to commit and get serious. You WERE even contemplating breaking up with her. Maybe she sensed all that and decided that it was time to venture out.
Now the friend thing is WRONG. No defense there.
Don't take this personally....you were not that serious with this relationship to commit to it to begin with. So what gives really?
I love you man, but let's not compare this one to your marriage.
BB
Re:Erum? JASPER: I agree with BB here if you were not serious with this woman then there really is nothing lost. Now the friend on the other hand was never a friend to began with or this would never of happened.You are not the bad guy in this it's the guy who pretened to be your friend.
There is a lesson in this some guys have a bad habit of bringing there friends into there relationships and this is a perfect example of why the two dont mix.
Go on have the beer but save the pity for the ex friend with friends like him who needs enemies!
Re:Erum? galil: I hate you BB, LOL J/K......
You always have a way of setting my pathetic butt straight.
I am still drunk but now I can walloe in muh self pitty hehe.
thanks guys all this beer gone to waste hehe. Iwill be ok in the morning I am sure :)
