I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW! barelybreathing: Major melt down folks.....I can barely even type...
Well, lets see......My X's parents are visiting him, who have always disliked me. Well they in the course of the nine years we were together never ever visited us and really never ever came over. They never called our house once. Well, they are in now in my house right and hanging out on my furniture using my office to check their email........like nothing!!!!! Cause I am not there. They would have never done that if I was there. Never.
I snapped and sent them a vicious email to them (his mother). And asked them how my house was and all my furniture was....and then I followed it with a question about if they met the other woman yet......
I am losing it.............thsi set me off for some reason and I am totally lose it..........HE HAS EVERYTHING.......ALL MY STUFF. And they are sitting around on it like nothing............
God help me......I am totally losing it.....
Re:I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW! JASPER: OMG BB I can't believe you actually sent that e-mail!
I can imagine how upset this has made you but it to shall pass,to bad it didn't pass before you sent that e-mail.
You have every right to mad the nerve of them as if they couldn't wait to get rid of you. I know it only takes a minute for something to make you snap,but you must remeber this people are not even worth your time not even worth the email you sent them!
I know your emotions got the best of you ,but you have to try to control yourself at least until you get your things back safely if you know what I mean.
Re:I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW! Jernigan: OKay, bb...
I'm hanging out at the house today, keeping online, nursing my eye back to health, and I look around to discover myself more or less in the same predicament. I gave everything to my wife---all the nice furniture and appliances and decorations. At this stage, I'm glad I did, because there were far too many associations attached to those items, and at least I have the minor satisfaction of being able to say I wasn't petty.
Now, the ex IN-laws sound like a group of d*cks. I'm not even going to try to be mature or magnanimous about this, because sometimes it's much more fun and healthy to call it like it is. Using your computer?! After ostracizing you and very probably contributing in their own way to the deterioration of your marriage? How about sneaking in and setting up bear and mice traps next time you know they'll be barging in and using your stuff? OKay, just a little joke; I never suggested that seriously, for the record.
BB, my in-laws were great to me while it lasted, but the second my wife snapped, they turned into cold-hearted, combative strangers. It was an instantaneous and alarming transformation, one which I'll never quite wrap my head around. In January, they'd written me a birthday card saying they "loved me like one of their own," and in February, when the shinola hit the fan, it was like, "What? Who are you? We're prorating the rent, and taking all your christmas gifts back!" Yes, they actually took my Christmas gifts back, if you can believe it. Snuck into the house which I was paying for when I was out of town, and TOOK them from my room. Now, I do find it hilarious---shows what jerks they were, and how I definitely lost nothing in THAT department. To judge from what you've written, I'm positivie one day you'll feel the same.
Re:I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW! Anna: BB-
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. Take a deep breath. Isn't is weird what things set us off? It isn't like this is the hardest thing you have gone through, but I know it is something that really hurts.
He doesn't have everything. He has 'things.' And in the long run, those aren't important. Let's look at what you have. God, most importantly. Your daughter. Your self respect and dignity. A wonderful future. A lot of potential. A caring, lovely personality. You have a lot going for you. He has a house full of memories of you and the life he left behind. He can't do any better EVER than what he chose to leave. You, on the other hand, do have something wonderful planned for you.
I know it is hard, but you just have to remind yourself of what you do have. I do that a lot for myself whenever I start feeling that 'I'm getting ready to feel sorry for myself' thing well up inside me.
Thinking of you-
Anna
Re:I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW! JASPER: Oh yeah BB dont forget to tell us if she replied!
