How do I tell my children? PRH26: I'm a mother of 3 children and one on the way. I have a 9 year old boy, 4 year old girl, 13 month old girl and I'm expecting another girl in December. I'm not sure what to tell them. My husband wants out of the marriage. Without any reasons that he'll tell me. He seems happy just living here, it's been 4 1/2 months since he first said we were through. Finally I told him either to try to work things out, go to counseling or he needed to find his own place. I can't live with him knowing he doesn't love me. We get along great, so that's good for the kids. But I still think my oldest is catching on. Not to mention I've given my husband until the end of the month to find a place.
What do I tell them? I'm so afraid to make things worse. My son is a very sensitive child. I hate this.
Thanks for your help in advance.
Penny :'(
Re:How do I tell my children? justmenow: Be honest with them. Of course, you need to bring the honesty to their level. Do not say negative things about your husband, just tell them the facts - there is a problem, we can't live together anymore, it is NOT your fault, this is between the adults, I will always be your Mommy, he will always be your Daddy, we will never stop loving you. Answer their questions patiently and honestly, and if you start to cry, just explain that you are sad too.
They will make it through this - kids are incredibly resilient. Be there for them as much as you can, and always be available to answer their questions to the best of your ability and never, ever air your bitterness towards your husband in front of them.
Re:How do I tell my children? down2basics: I totally agree with JMN - kids are incredible and you may find that they will give you some unique insight into everything that's happening!
Best of luck!
d2b
