Has anyone noticed this? scraft: Dating was so simple and easy before the marriage, but now....It sucks monkey butt. Of course, I have absolutely no idea what I'm talking about since I've had a grand total of 3 boyfriends in my life. At first when my ex and I seperated all I wanted to do was have all the fun I thought I had missed out on since I was 15. We met when I was 15 I guess I should clarify, and married a month before my 20th birthday. Now, I just feel like there is no fun to be had, and that i'm ancient at 29. What is it with men these days? All the men I've gone on dates with or had a serious relationship with all had that non commitment thing goin on. Or, the men I've gone on dates with put me to sleep in the first hour. Most of them just wanna take me to a bar to see how drunk I could get <yawn>, and I tell them up front that I don't drink much. For crying out loud I really think everyone of them was deaf. I'm not a man hater by any means nor am I bashing men, but can't ya'll give a girl a break? I'm turning into the crazy old cat lady because they're all that keep me company when the kiddies aren't home. The first serious boyfriend I had after our seperation was a real treat...He could've been the man, but the relationship with his ex wife was getting in the way. Everytime she called he would not walk he would break into an all out run, so I had to ditch him. I can't even tell anyone what my ideal date would be like cuz I don't know! It's been 2 years since my last date, and I have to wonder what it is about me that scares me off. Is it because I will rarely keep my opinion to myself, am I the one who's boring, I refuse to lie to them and tell them they just aren't good enough for me, my stubbornness, I could keep going down the list, but I don't wanna bore ya'll to death. And, does anyone else pushin 30 feel stupid for calling a guy your boyfriend? Does it sound childish? I think I need to call a shrink, or find a good date.
Re:Has anyone noticed this? jillieb44: I hear ya.
I'd have thought that dating over 40 (see? I'm even older than you, LOL) would be simpler, if only cuz at this age we've had time to experience a lot, grow a lot, and be more comfortable with ourselves....but that isn't the case.
Silly games, childish actions, non-committal about just hanging out....
All you can do is be yourself, don't try too hard to impress anyone, and someday you (and I) will find someone....
Jillie, who hopes that's true (I don't have lots of dating experience either)
Re:Has anyone noticed this? scraft: I just wanna know when everything became so complicated? What you say is true. I'm me and if you don't like it then please by all means leave lol. I don't play games with grown men I have a 7 year old son( today is his birthday) to play with. Nor, do I like people messin with my head it gives me quite a migrane. Maybe, it's the Capricorn in me that makes it more difficult then it needs to be?
Re:Has anyone noticed this? AmyMarie1972: Hi,
First wishing your son a very happy birthday.
I am like you. I feel stupid calling the guy that i have been dating my boyfriend which is why when I write about him I always say the guy that I have been seeing instead of my boyfriend.
I have only ever had 3 what I call proper boyfriends and one of them I married and have spent the last 13 years with.
I find it really difficult with guys. The one that i have been dating is sweet but i dont think that it is going to go very far unless he learns to lighten up a bit (he's a bit dull but has a great car!!!).
I am sure that things get easier well at least I hope that they do.
I've heard that you will always find Mr Right, you just have to go through a load of Mr Wrongs to know it. So keep on going he will turn up.
Take care
Amy
Re:Has anyone noticed this? scraft: I've had my share of the dull with nice cars. Maybe if they would've let me drive it would've lasted longer lol
