*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... jt5639: I'm feeling pretty crappy right now - some might say craptastic.
I'm just so hurt that he's already seeing someone else. I try to tell myself that it's not about me, that this doesn't mean I and our relationship wasn't important to him. It just hurts like h#ll. I'm trying so hard to get some work done but keep having little breakdowns. He just wasn't supposed to hurt me like this, you know. I can't make sense out of the way he's behaved over the last 5 months. How can he already have a girlfriend? I know I shouldn't try to make sense of it - this just hurts so much.
:'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
JT
Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... AmyMarie1972: JT,
I know exactly how you are feeling. Mine got a g/f just 5 weeks after leaving and was living with her a week later.
You cant help but ask was it me? Was the relationship worth so little? Why is she better?
I asked the ex the last one and his answer was that she's not better just different.
Here's the truth of the answers
Was it me? - Of course it wasn't. You did not ask him to get someone else that was his choice and he made it all by himself.
Was the relationship worth so little? Answer is no. The reason that they find someone so quickly is because they hate not being in a relationship. they hate missing the security that they felt when they were with you and are doing everything they can to get that security and comfotability back again. This means that the relationship was worth alot to them, because they are missing it so much.
As for the last one, nobody is better than anyone else. the ex was right, we are just all different and different partnerships work while others do not.
All that you have to say to yourself is that you are a great person, deserving of happiness and the only reason that he has found someone so quickly is because he is stupid enough to think that he can have the same as he had with you.
It wont work out.
Hold your head up and be proud and strong.
Big HUG and take care
Amy
Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... ti-poux: JT,
Please don't cry..things will get better...I know it hurts, but some men just can't handle life alone and need replacement quickly because they are not too good at dealing with feelings...
You are a smart and strong woman and you are way ahead of him because you chose to heal and find yourself again...I am sure he misses you...maybe that is why he's already in a relationship...
You'll get through this, I promise. I am in the same boat as you are...but when I really sit down and think about it. If he's not moving heaven and earth to fix what was wrong and really show me that he meant it when he said "you are my soul mate" well he does not deserve me at all...You, I and everybody else on this board deserves the person who will go and get the stars in heaven for them.
big hugs for you....
Chantal
Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... jimloveless: one word, jt
REBOUND.
it won't work. and by the time they both figure that out, you will be moving forward in life, feeling a LOT better about your position in life. feeling a lot stronger from surviving one of the most difficult events that can happen to a person.
don't forget it! we all deserve a person who is willing to put the same amount of work into a relationship that we do. love yourself and love others and you will be a better person than he is.
hugs out to ya.
Re:*Sigh* Yuck! Blah... Chelle30: Jt,
I am going thru the EXACT thing. Why is there someone else in the world that can make them happy when you can't? I don't know, I ask myself the same question every F****ing day. I try and forget about, I pretend that I don't care or worse...I'm HAPPY for him, but I'm not. I hurt and I ache and I wonder constantly why I wasn't good enough for him. I wish that I could give you the magic words that would take the pain away...I wish someone could give them to me. Just know that there are people that you can talk to, people that will listen and thank God for this place...there are people who understand what you are going thru. People say it takes time and I'm a firm believer...Take time, cry when you need to, talk when you need to...
Chelle
