No answers!!!!!!!!!! Jami301: Okay, here goes. Can anyone relate or give me insight...whether its a guy that understands this mentality or a girl who has experienced something similar. HELP!! I was in a WONDERFUL relationship with this man for 6 months. Although we are both divorced, I truly thought he was THE ONE after putting much thought into it and taking into account all the heartache I've learned from in the past. We had a wonderful time with eachother in so many ways, and he truly swept me off my feet. He treated me like a queen and friends say he looked at me as if I hung the moon. Tension began to be felt around the last part of April and I asked him twice if everything was okay and he assured me both times everything was fine. I stayed with him two weekends ago, had a wonderful time, left Sunday afternoon on what I thought was a good note even though he was being quiet. But still no indications something was wrong. After I left that Sunday I didn't hear from him for 3 days. I left a voicemail for him letting him know clearly there is something to be talked about. He called me back Wednesday and agreed that we need to talk. We agreed to meet Sunday (Mothers Day), but that day came and he cancelled on me because he took his mother to church that evening. But he mentiond that he wanted to reschedule. I left a voicemail that Wednesday would be a good day for me to meet him and for him to let me know. I didn't hear from him for 4 more days, so I emailed him my feelings on the whole matter and let him know my confusions. I was very level headed and practical in all voicemails and emails, never eratic or demanding. He emailed back simply saying his feelings have changed and it had to end. I considered from friends the idea that an affiar has occurred, but I KNOW that is not what happened. What gives of this behavior? He offered love and affection and fun times up to the minute I left his place last, two weeks ago. He also mentioned various plans with me in the weeks to come. What is this all about???? Help, I can't make sense out of any of his behaviors. Nothing adds up! Thanks!!!!!
Re:No answers!!!!!!!!!! jillieb44: OMG did we date the same man??? :o Only I dated him for 6 weeks, and same thing, all fine till the last day, he was quiet, only I got dumped via e-mail.
What the.....???
Sorry to hear that. I did the same, all positive, upbeat, no drama, just concern and questions about what happened, and nada. Just plain over. My story is around here somewhere.
Hang in there. {{{Hugs}}} It's NOT you.
Jillie
Re:No answers!!!!!!!!!! Jami301: Thanks for the quick repsonse. 6 months is hard to swallow, especially when he inititiated all the intense feelings. I know it's not me...but does he know that???? I miss the good times we had...do the memories fade???
Re:No answers!!!!!!!!!! jillieb44: Exactly. This guy had all the right answers to my questions, had all the right moves, basically stole my heart. And once he had it, BAM!
Yeah, the day before he broke up with me was WONDERFUL. Asked me to a bbq in May (this was mid April); spoke about getting a new seat for his bike 'so I'd be more comfortable', basically everthing he said and did hinted that we'd be together for a while. No hint of anything, no blips on my radar, nada.
Just don't know what the he** happened.
I got the 'there's no chemistry romantically' line.
Ouch.
Jillie
Re:No answers!!!!!!!!!! CONFUSED PETE: i had the woman i was with for almost 12 years just up and tell me she wants to "be alone", no real good reason, just wants to "move on" no one we know and were close to had any idea this was coming, she was always happy and did not avoid me, we always slept to gether and said i love you. no idea, she is 27 and i am 30
