An Affair to remember stillhurting2: This is hard....my first year of marriage and it has been very difficult. Here is my situation.
- In October, I found out my wife was involved in an emotional affair with a co-worker. They would meet before and after work and on the weekends just to be together. I had discovered many phone calls and text pages to this person. After I approached her about it, she told me she was sorry and that it was over.
- While out of town in December, I discovered that they had been talking again. I went to his wife with all of the information, which put him in the dog house and on a well deserved leash. She discovered that they had gotten a hotel room while I was out of town. My wife admitted that they went to the hotel, but nothing happened...he couldn't perform.
- Since then, she tells me that no communication is occurring between the two of them (they still work together). As far as I can see, there has been no phone calls and text pages with the OP.
- Obviously, we are still having problems. I love my wife so much, but am having troubles moving on. I don't feel like I can trust her. I travel occasionaly for business, but worry everytime I leave that she is up to something.
I'll take all the advice I can get!
Re:An Affair to remember turning leaf: I don't know how to post a link but you may want to read the thread titled MAJOR TRUST ISSUES started by Thinkin. It's on tell your story, page 2, scroll down to the middle. That was a good thread.
Re:An Affair to remember ryantaylor16: I am currently going through a similar problem. Time will take its toll. Do you have a good line of communication with her? Talk to her. Find out what she gets from this other relationship that she is not getting for you. I dont think it has anything to do with the guy it is about her. She needs to know that you adore her and not only love her. If it is the sneaking part that intrigues her well turn it in to a game. Meet her at a bar after work and surprise her with a kiss on the neck after a long wait. Do some role playing, buy a prepaid cell phone and send her a text message inviting her to a secluded spot.
Either that or prepare for the worse. I am trying to find just what my wife was missing and since she was only having an emotional affair I can feel your pain.
My wife is willing to go counseling and work this out. In my case I offered nothing to my wife other than criticism. I need to make me a better person if not for my wife, for my kids.
Good luck!
Re:An Affair to remember ChiefWiggum: still,
Your wife is full of it when she says nothing happened. People don't get hotel rooms to do nothing. Does she want you to believe they watched the weather chanel together (on seperate beds)? Humans want to fool around.
I'm sorry, but your wife is a cheater. :(
I know it's hard to accept, but your relationship with her is doomed. Keep reading at writing to this board. You'll get lots of good advice.
CW
Re:An Affair to remember sourpuss: i have to partially agree with the chief.
it stopped being an "emotional" affair when she went to the hotel. she went to get l@id, whether or not they did is irrelevant.
if it is doomed though, is up to the 2 of you.
she needs to figure out why she is lying & cheating. you need to decide whether or not you are willing to remain married to someone who you will never fully trust again.
good luck.
