Re:why? purplestar278: Wow! It's hard to believe that other people are going through the same EXACT thing that I'm going through. Emotional and verbal abuse sucks.
My STBX has done the same to me over our 8 1/2 year relationship and now he's turning his back on me, throwing me away like some rag doll. It hurts, oh it hurts like hell. And I know I have to move past the hurt, the anger, the disappointment, the abuse and the rejection.
Thanks for being brave, speaking up and if anything, being a comfort for me to let me know that I'm not the only one who has been treated like this. There are wonderful men out there and I have met one through this board. Keep your chin up, be positive, don't let him get to you. He knows which buttons to push and he will push them all the way through you. Don't let him step on you any longer. I want to hurt him so bad, to retaliate and show him what it feels like to be stomped one, but I can't. I can't for myself nor can I for my kids.
Hang in there! If you need anything, let me know. I'm right there with you.
Dana
why? BabygirlM: i have been with my ex for 2 years. in those 2 years we have had the best times and the worst times. towards the end he was emotionally abusing me to an extreame and breaking up with me every other week. i finally had my heart broken so many times that i told him it had to stop. a week later he showed up at my house telling me how much he loved me wanted us back together, move back in together etc. we had sex which i now regret. 2 hours after he said all these wonderful things to me he looked me straight in the eye, told me he was leaving, and didnt love me afterall.
i cried and cried for days. not only for the demise of our relationship, but for myself for letting myself be a fool one more time. i shouldnt have let him be at my home, i shouldnt have let him call me and talk me into letting him back in my life. it hurts 10 times worse than it ever has. how could someone do this to another human being.
our entire relationship has been one long rollercoaster....and i keep taking it....i keep loving him and giving him my absolute all. only for it to be stomped on, taken for granted, and made a fool of.
i wish for one day he could feel the pain i am going through and have been going through at times througout our relationship....i wish he would hurt like i am. he is sick and i think he gets off on making me suffer, when all i have ever done is love him with my whole self.
as of now, i am trying to enforce in myself the "no contact" rule. it has been 2 days, and i want nothing more than to call him and get some answers. WHY WHY WHY did he do this to me? i have done nothing wrong, i am a beautiful women with so much love to give...what more could he have wanted?
what am i going to do?
Re:why? sheydp: You are doing the right thing with no contact. I think you will find some of the answers on your own with time. As you spend time away from him, you will see him more clearly, make less excuses for him. You will also start to see where and how you let him, and won't ever let anyone do that to you again. Time. So hard to hear, but so very true.
Shey
Re:why? charmed: I can truly understand your feelings and my heart goes out to you. I also wanted answers, but came to the conclusion that I will never get them in the way I need. I have to accept that my boyfriend didn't have the ability to truly commit, to keep a healthy relationship going and HIS issues came long before me. Until he deals with himself, his patterns will follow him into every relationship. I am not to blame for his destructive behavior both to himself and to our relationship. You aren't to blame for your boyfriend's behavior, but you can put a stop to it by eliminating all contact. This isn't always easy, but the more you do it, the more empowered you will become. No man is worth losing yourself over!!!
I wish you the best of luck (((hugs)))
`charmed
Re:why? BabygirlM: wow charmed we sound like we are in a very similar situation. he always had issues and as much as i hoped and prayed for him to change, his attitude and his emotional abuse on me only got worse. are you over your ex yet? if so how did the process go for you?
shey: i hope time will heal....its all i can hope for because he will never change, and if he came back to me saying he had changed it would probably be a lie.
