I just saw my ex boyfriend after 12 years... jillybean: My ex and I where High School sweethearts for 6 years. We broke up on a bad note and never got closure. He went on too get married and so did I a few years later. Now he is divorced, I have heard from mutual friends that he is going through some rough times, and I want him too know that If he needs a friend I will be there for him. I feel bad for what he is going through. It took me a long time to get over him, especially since we never had closure. Do not get me wrong, I love my husband very much( I have been married 10 years and have two kids.) but they are not the same deep feelings I had for my first Love. But I have been having some weird dreams and feelings about my ex, ever since I saw him a few weeks back. I would like to talk to him and extend my friendship to him or at least have a talk with him so we could find that closure we never had. I have his number because i got it off our mutual friend'd cell phone. But I feel bad calling him, because he did not give it to me, nor would I want him to think i am after him again. He seemed pleasant enough when we exchanged hello's. I cannot stop thinking about contacting him, should I or shouldn't I? I do not want to hurt my marriage, but I feel that if I dont talk to my ex about stuff that was never resolved in the past ( bad feelings) I will go nuts, thinking about it all day long.
BTW It is his B-Day this Friday May27th. Can I at least call him to wish him a Happy Birthday? Will that be wrong of me too do ??
Re:I just saw my ex boyfriend after 12 years... leah: it wouldnt be completly wrong just as long as its just that
Re:I just saw my ex boyfriend after 12 years... lorilee3: Um....
There's a can of worms you're opening up here, I think. It could lead to something more, particularly since you have all these simmering bottled up emotions. I'd only call if you're prepared to handle it going further. It sounds like it easily could. Perhpas you should leave well enough alone and be happy with the life that you lead now. Good luck. ;)
-L
Re:I just saw my ex boyfriend after 12 years... sourpuss: yep - go ahead and call, but as a FRIEND, not as an ex who is harbouring fantasies of rekindling an old flame or getting "closure" for an old relationship.
incidently, does your husband know? i think it's a bad sign if you contact the old b/f and hide it.
Re:I just saw my ex boyfriend after 12 years... jillybean: Yea my hubby knows... I said hello to him in front of my husband.
I really just want to wish him a Happy Birthday and keep in touch "AS FRIENDS" if possible.. if not, then that is ok too...
