19 and divorcing gmcgurl1985: Wow I can't believe this is what it came to. I never thought i would be 19 and in the middle of a divorce. My husband soon to be ex and i dated for 2 months got engaged, moved in after4 months and married in 7. it sounds so crazy but then i think about it and reallky its not. The home where i come from was abusive. my dad was a raging alcoholic and here was my boyfriend saying we should get married and that i should move in as soon as i graduated. And i did. I saw him as a way out of a really bad situation. Then in January things started falling a part. We were fighting all the time, then there was an instance with my soon to be ex and a stripper at a party. and lo and behold....my husband has an issue with alcohol. He was possesive, convinced i was cheating on him, demeaning. I couldn't take it. I wanted out. SO here i am. 19 and getting divorced. Is there anyone else out there this young and going through a divorce? I could really use a friend
Re:19 and divorcing stupify: hey! im 22 now, and remarried.. but i got married at 17, and divorced at 19... if you ever need anybody to talk to, just pm me... you are not alone.
Re:19 and divorcing penguin: GMCgurl,
First of all, Welcome to OJAR. We are very loving and caring people who can try to help you and assure you that you are not all alone in this.
I know what you are going through. I was 18 living in my own place, couldn't afford rent anymore, moved in with a guy friend to babysit while he worked. This was in August of 2002. We got very close, and got married in June of 2003. He went psycho (as explained in other posts) and I moved out in September of 2003. I moved away and the divorce was final in December of 2003. I was married at 18 and divorced at 19. You are not alone out there. Read these posts, and you will see.
Re:19 and divorcing BMS: I didn't get married until the day of my 30th birthday, and even though I waited until I had lived life a little and found a woman that I thought I could go the distance with, I am now in the middle of what could be the end of my marriage after only 18 months.
My point is that we all take chances in life, any couple that gets married is taking a chance. Regardless of how well you think you know a person, they may just be playing a role of the person they think they should be. Someday they might wake up and decide this isn't me and walk out.
Life is about chances. You took one with hope and faith that it would work out. If is is indeed over between you and your husband, at least you walk away knowing something more about love, life, and yourself. Take this wisdom you've learned the hard way and make yourself a better person.
BMS
Re:19 and divorcing charmed: Welcome to Ojar ;D
BMS gave some words of wisdom.
It is difficult to go through this experience at a young age, but it might be more difficult to go through after you've been married for years. It's never easy, but you have a full life ahead of you and one that will probably prove to be happier and more productive. Try not to think of this as the end of your life, but the beginning with more wisdom and awareness.
I know these are mere words and don't help much now, but we are here for you. I wish you the best
`charmed
