The new girl.. and the I love you's mydarkdreams: So.. last night ex was talking to new girlfriend on the phone, she says "I love you" at the end of the conversation (I could hear it, as well as recognize his uncomfort he felt) - he skirted it and did not reply to it, other than to say "yeah, K". When he got off of the phone I asked him why he did that, I could HEAR her and I could also tell by his reaction as avoidance - does he forget that *I* was with him for 5 years and know these things?! I said don't do that to her, I remember how much I hated it the few times you did that to me.. He has already told me that "he loves her to death".. but he still loves me too. he says he told her that he still loves and cares about me and he will not put it in my face like that, so if I am around he will not be affectionate with her in any way shape or form, and he has apparently told her this a couple of times. He says he doesn't want to hurt me like that. I replied that it hurts anyways, and don't hurt HER like that on *MY* account. IF he loves her then whatever. He said he doesn't like to see me hurting like I was during that conversation - I said, well how am I *NOT* supposed to hurt. You are *already* in love with someone else. TO that he retorts, and is almost offended, saying that he is NOT IN LOVE with her, but he loves her to death. I take that as meaning that he cares for her. Then dumbfu*k, don't tell her I LOVE YOU, tell her I care for you. WTF?! I see this ending badly - I hope more badly for him than her, but she kinda deserves it.. she should have her eyes open a little further.
So then we go to the store, I tell him that I am going to my friends house next weekend - he asks why, well because she invited me - and my friend who died's brother wants to see me. He asks who the brother is, I explain that he is my friend who died's brother - he was always such a jerk, until after my friend died - I haven't seen him in years (though he did ask my friend if I was single, but that is beside the point). Ex asks how old he is, I say like 3 or so years older, so he's like 34-35.. So, Ex's reply - is this a new possibility?! (he said it fairly optimistically) Um, weirdo, I haven't seen him in YEARS - he used to be a jerk - to which Ex interjects that people change. (the brother was basically just being the jerky big brother).. So I say, do you want him to be my new possibility?! He replies he was joking. Yeah, whatever. Maybe he is Eager for me to move on so he feels less guilty, perhaps. And I wouldn't have any real idea if the brother was someone on the horizon, again, I haven't seen him in YEARS. I am quite surprised that he even asked if I was single, though he has asked my friend about me several times (my friend is his sister in law).
Ex later told me that the night he came back to the house from his moms (he was housesitting) and stayed that night (to which we had a middle of the d@mned night hours long conversation about how confused he is etc) - the new girlfriend was out with her ex boyfriend. I said doing what?! he replied he didn't know, doesn't think he wants to know, and it's not his business. Oh really.. interesting.
Too bad for him that I am so done, even though it does hurt there is no way in hell I am going back there. No way. Still is all hurty and junk.
Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's sourpuss: good for you for being "done". i look forward to when i can say the same thing.
poor g/f, though, must be tough to be with someone who is so obviously not "done".
i look into my crystal ball and see......your ex coming to cry on your shoulder 'cause new g/f has dumped him for her ex......
Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's mydarkdreams: [quote author=sourpuss link=board=20;threadid=12555;start=0#msg103492 date=1117756623">
good for you for being "done". i look forward to when i can say the same thing.
poor g/f, though, must be tough to be with someone who is so obviously not "done".
i look into my crystal ball and see......your ex coming to cry on your shoulder 'cause new g/f has dumped him for her ex......
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Yeah that is kinda what I think.. and also kinda why I feel bad for her.. But on the same token - HELLO you are involved with a guy who lives with his ex girlfriend of 5 YEARS and you KNOWINGLY got involved with him a mere week after we broke up. I am sure she probably doesn't know he still sleeps in my bed.. naked most of the time. Yeah. Feel bad for her, especially becuase he still wants to "cuddle" with me. (Good thing I have a really big bed that I can sleep to one side of).. She needs to open her eyes.
I am done, but it doesn't mean I don't hurt.. gah that's the annoying part
Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's jillieb44: Uh, why are you still living with/sleeping in the same bed as your ex??
Jillie
Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's jimloveless: probably best you didn't hear him respond to her 'i love you'. hearing the way my wife said it to the OM was like driving a dull, rusted icepick into my aorta. i'm not sure i've ever heard it come out that sincerely.
