Perfect to Dead in 3 weeks kfc75: So here is my story, not sure anyone can enlighten me further, but here goes for prosperity. 3 weeks ago my wife and I have just sold our house and are making all these plans to move to Indiana to start a new life, we were both really happy and excited. The next day she sits me down and says, "I can't move with you, I don't love you, and I want a divorce" We went to counseling but it was obvious from the first time she didn't want to go and her heart wasn't in it. It hurts so much she doesn't want to save what we have, I mean we have it all, a nice house, and beautiful son, and a really strong friendship, but thats not enough. Now as the days went on I started getting suspicious about her activities, so I snooped around, and found out she is having a on line relationship with someone from high school who she hasn't seen in 7 years, how lives 1500 miles away, I found e-mails, and heard sexual phone calls, it turns out she thinks she is in love with him. So now she wants to move to FL to be with him and take our son too. We have gone back and forth and can't come up with a compromise on the FL issue. I am not sure what to do, I would like for her to come to her senses and see what she is giving up for a fantasy, but I don't think its going to happen, she is too comitted to her new relationship, its almost like being around me is cheating on him to her. So I don't think anything is going to get better, so I am formulating this plan, where I get the major part of the custody of my son who I love dearly and spend alot of time with now, in return I move to FL for her benifit. Sounds fucked up right, thats my life right now, perfect to dead in 3 weeks flat, life just sucks
Re:Perfect to Dead in 3 weeks sourpuss: it does suck, i'm so sorry this is happening to you.
get a custody agreement in place ASAP! if she takes him out of state, you'll have a heck of a time getting him back.
do you think she'll agree to your plan? if not, get to a lawyer right away!
welcome, by the way.
Re:Perfect to Dead in 3 weeks oncehappy: I definately agree on the "get a lawyer" advice. I had a similar situation but my stbxw and I are in agreement re; our 10-year-old daughter to raise her together even when we get divorced.
The law will be on your side if you are forthcoming with everything - your wife is being irresponsible and irratic over a lost love. Judges do not look to kindly upon these weak emotional ploys.
I know the pain runs deep but try to hang in there by dialouging with a close friend or therapist on a REGULAR basis. Being alone in all of this will literally drain you and pain you to the enth degree! Get somebody in your boat whop will walk you through to the end! This won't go away but you can make it to the other side with great peace if you are guided properly.
GJG
Re:Perfect to Dead in 3 weeks kfc75: I have actually been to 2 lawyers already, the scumbag lawyer and the nice guy lawyer, both think I would have a really good shot at custody because of my relationship with my son, due to the fact I work at home and the extreme flexibility of my job, he has pretty much been raised by the 2 of us equally, however if she wants to leave she has to get a job, making me the best option for custody, however I know she would fight with everything she has to stop me doing this. I have placed the offer on the table that if I eat my pride, go to FL so she can be near the other guy, I would get primary residental custody, basically monday thru friday, she would get the weekend, she says she is seriously thinking it over, her only request so far is that she could have him over for dinner one night in the week, but he would stay with me.
Scumbag wants me to fight her to stay here, nice guy likes the idea of a compromise to save us money and from a bitter custody battle.
Really all I want is for her to come to her senses and say, look what I am giving up for something that might not even work, and try and work things out, but she keeps telling me that even if it doesn't work with this other guy it makes not difference, she doesn't want to be with me anyway.
Re:Perfect to Dead in 3 weeks jimloveless: kfc-
i gotta say that your story is awful, and i just want you to know that you need to prepare for some seriously wretched days ahead. If you need anyone to talk to, I'm on here daily, you can click on the little scroll thing and PM me. Aside from the child, my situation was exactly like yours... in 3 weeks, everything was upside down.
watch out for the little one, and do what you can to hold on tight. she's being incredibly irresponsible and imature. definately not a model mother for your son.
god bless
