How to explain to a 3 & 5 year old ColoHill: It really breaks my heart wondering how to tell my children that their mom and dad can't be married any more. My 5 year old is so smart and I know she will have so many questions. What do I say? I am afraid that my bitterness about finding out yesterday that he has been cheating on me will show through. Someone please help me. I really need advice.
Re:How to explain to a 3 & 5 year old JazzBaby: I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this....I had a hard time trying to figure out how to explain our separation to my 4 yr old daughter; but she handled it so much better than I thought she would. We just sat down as a family, and STBX and I explained that we love her very much, and we will always be a family, but that she knows Mommy and Daddy fight too much and that Daddy was moving into a new house. We made sure to give her lots of hugs and both promised that she would always be able to see or call either one of us whenever she wants to. The first couple months, we still did some stuff together as a family (movies, eating out, etc) until she got used to it all. When STBX moved out, he took her shopping for new furniture, wall paper, etc. for her bedroom at his house -- so she ended up feeling really involved and comfortable in the new house. It's not all been easy...I still have to bite my tongue when I'm mad @ him, have to remind myself that he's her daddy and she can't possibly understand why I'm so angry still.
Hope that helps just a little....it's a tough situation, but kids are pretty resilient.
