advice - contact OM... try30: hey everyone,
i'm not going to focus on this subject too much, but if you are aware that after you wife has asked the OM to stop emailing and he still does, have you ever contacted that person (via email, for example) and asked calmly and straightforwardly to stop contact so at least during the reconciliation stage there are no distractions?
like i said, i'm trying to focus more on myself and my wife, but this guy is really starting to irritate me. and it's not like he's a stranger to me - i know him.
or, maybe his actions will start annoying my wife too - maybe i should just let this be??
thanks for any advice.
Re:advice - contact OM... Lumpy: Dear try30,
Have you brought up the idea to your spouse. Maybe it would even be more effective if you had her write the e-mail. (with you monitoring of course) I think it's a good idea. Hopefully he'll respect your situation.
Re:advice - contact OM... sourpuss: what kind of contact is it? isi it "hi how are you" or is it "baby come back, i can't live without you"?
is she answering him? once you guys are past the "reconcilliation stage" as you call it, will it be ok for him to contact her then?
if it's a 2-sided exchange, then it's communication, if it's 1-sided then it's not.
if she simply deletes the emails then you should just ignore the om. if she is answering (even if it's just saying "stop it') then he has no reason to stop contacting her. she should tell him to stop one last time, thencut off contact with him entriely.
if it is becoming creepy/scary, then have an attorney draft a "cease & desist" letter to him, send it registered mail so you have proof he received it.
Re:advice - contact OM... ChiefWiggum: "You need to make it clear he will not contact you again... or I will make it clear."
"Call him right now... or I'll call him right now."
CW
