I'm in love(?)he can't decide dazedanddivorcing: My ex has been having second thoughts.
In the beginning, I wanted to work things out more than anything, and now I just don't know.
He was the one who wanted the divorce, I feel like HE should be trying to win me back--with tons of I love and miss you's, can't live without yous --flowers, the whole bit. I want him to tell me he realized that he made a mistake. He kind of told me about the mistake part, but as far as everything else goes, he says he loves me, but don't know if we can make it work.
He says these things, comes over and makes me and the kids dinner, cuts my grass, all that stuff, but is still confused about whether or not to stop the divorce.
Our divorce should be final anytime, if we were ever going to stop it, we should be trying to right now--and even now is not a guarantee we can stop it in time.
One judge has already signed, it is just waiting for another judge to sign it, and then it will be entered by the clerk and will be a done deal.
Man, this is so confusing. I had made some progress as far as moving on, and now sometimes feel like I am back to square one.
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Re:I'm in love(?)he can't decide mydarkdreams: *big hugs* the mixed messages are awful and confusing. I wish I had some sound words of advice or something for you.. but, even if the divorce does become final if you both want it to work, that doesnt mean you have to stay apart forever - but his ambivalence isn't very reassuring. I'd say cut your losses and try to move on. *big hug*
Re:I'm in love(?)he can't decide jt5639: Just keep moving on - don't let him put you in emotional limbo. Keep truckin' until he figures his crap out. HUGS.
- jt
Re:I'm in love(?)he can't decide EssieDotCom: I know where you are coming from. i 'm not divorced yet, in fact I still live in with my husband. but in a very cold enviorment. one moment it seems I matter and the next it's as if he'd rather not have me here at all. The point has been said that he wants us to seperate as soon as I finish up on my internship.... but he sends cross messages all of the time. like on Saturday he was all lovey dovey wanting to hold me and hug me, and yesterday he pushed me aside like I was his at his "convience" to be with. I hate feeling like no matter what i do or say that I don't really matter,"I'm a convience. "
