1st session with marriage counselor twetifb: So, yesterday was our first marriage counseling session. For a little background for those that don’t know my story…I left my husband and moved out three weeks ago. The separation was amicable but we do talk everyday and we’ve seen each other once a week for a “date”. My husband has refused to go to counseling since I brought up the idea about a year ago. Two days after I left, he started researching counselors and found one that he liked. Since it’s was only our first session we just answered a questionnaire that the therapist had and talked a little about the main stresses in our relationship. I personally didn’t care for the therapist. He was constantly cutting us off and injecting a story about himself or a friend of his. He seemed to get off the topic several times thus leaving huge gaps in our story. I’m not sure if he was just trying to give us an idea of the type of person he is so that we know if we really want to see him again. Well, my husband loved him. He left the session with a smile on his face all excited that he found someone he could talk to and who wouldn’t point the finger at him and tell him he’s wrong. I am very happy that my husband found someone he’ll talk to because I was terrified that is he wasn’t comfortable then the there would be no more counseling. We scheduled another appointment for next week. I’m trying to keep a positive mind and wait till after the next session before I form my opinion of the therapist. The one thing I really liked about the therapist was how perceptive he was. He read our body language correctly and made a couple comments about each of us that were dead on. I was also thinking last night that I may contact a therapist of my own. I think it would help me to talk to someone alone because maybe I’ll better understand why I left and then I’ll be able to explain it to him in a way that’ll make sense. I don’t know…I just don’t know.
Re:1st session with marriage counselor Beren: Tweety, have I mentioned lately how proud I am of you? Maybe proud is the wrong word. Have I mentioned how freaking awed I am by you?
Beren
Re:1st session with marriage counselor twetifb: Beren~ No, you haven't...thank you.
Okay...you just made me all teary-eyed. :)
Re:1st session with marriage counselor charmed: I commend you and am proud of you also :D I wish you and your husband the very best-
`charmed
Re:1st session with marriage counselor rjack0612: Personally, I wanted to go to counseling because my wife and I have dug our heels in on a lot of issues. I would like an independent part to say hey you are WRONG about this even if it is ME or her. Kind of like a binding arbitration. My wife can't seem to see that she is WRONG on a lot of things, especially the destuction of trust.
