thought I was doing good...I was wrong willow78: :( :-[ :'([color=Orange"> [/color"> Well I thought I was on the road to recovery, thought I was going to be ok. Now I am right back to missing him and crying my eyes out. I want him back, I want our life that we had back, I love him still. I want God to step in and make things right. We have been divorced since April, I feel so crappy right now. He talks to me like I am just one of his friends, which kills me. We shared the most intimate things together that two people can share, how can he just act like that? I hate this so so much!!!!!!!!!!
Re:thought I was doing good...I was wrong slowlearner: Yeah that's how I feel sometimes when I get treated like just another work colleague - we were so close and now we're "just friends". He used to care, now he's just being polite. :'(
Re:thought I was doing good...I was wrong teacherwriterguy: Hey Willow,
Take a step back and talk about/think about what triggered these feelings today? Do a little life-assessment - have other things changed very recently?
Sometimes - I think - when we hit a low part of the roller coaster, our bodies panic. It feels terrible to be so low, and so we increase our anxiety and our depression thinking, "Oh crud! I'm back here. I didn't think I'd feel this again - oh no!"
But it's really okay to have those moments - and sometimes, even, it may be other things beyond divorce that cause them? Or tangentially related to divorce?
twg
Re:thought I was doing good...I was wrong AmyMarie1972: I know that feeling so well, but that feeling passes and you will get to a point where you are happy to be just friends. It does take time and tears but it does happen. I myself felt all of those feelings, but now I am happy to see him as just a friend, someone I can talk to.
Just hang in there
Amy
Re:thought I was doing good...I was wrong francesca: I know exactly how you feel willow78. Sometimes I just want to wake up back in our marital home lazying around on a Saturday morning. Then I realize, I'm not that person anymore and I have no clue where he is this Saturday morning. It hurts, it sucks, and it is painful. Sometimes I feel like I'm living another person's life, not mine...then I think...WHEN and how am I supposed to get used to this?
There could be a panic feeling involved. I am sure there are times where you are doing completely well. I'm not sure..I'm struggling myself and the divorce is far from final. Hang in there hon!
