Just a vent no need to reply

Just a vent no need to reply AmyMarie1972: My ex is a total and utter moron. We had a huge argument Friday but for the first time in ages I held my own. Well he has the kids last night so I had a night off. He has been telling me that I should get more serious with a guy that I have been seeing because I have been holding back. I told him that I was not sure that I was ready for that, but on Friday night this guy came around. We spent hours laying under the stars, watching them and just talking and it was great. The ex has said that he doesn't want me having anyone around to stay the night as it is half his house (personally I think that he is just trying to make things as awquard as possible not that I really listen). Anyway I was really happy Saturday morning and just couldn't stop smiling. When the ex asked why and I told him that it was becaise of this other guy he suddenly became really quiet and I could tell that he was angry. Well today he brings the kids back and tells me that if this guy does anything to hurt his kids he will kick his head in. I said to him that firstly I would never pick anyone who would hurt the kids and secondly he cant tell me who I can and cant see. I said it calmly, no raised voice, no look of how annoyed I was feeling. But then I continued and said that there were things about his girlfriend that I dont like, but I dont tell him that he cant see her or make threats. He says like what to which I replied She smokes dope. He says she doesn't smoke it around the kids. I said that doesn't matter she still smokes it while they are there whether she takes it outside or not. Kids aren't stupid and drugs are drugs. With that he get in his car and speeds off after slamming his door.
Well I dont care, he cant make threats to guys that i want to see and he is going to have to trust my judgement just as I have had to trust his, even though I dont agree with it. I would never hurt my kids and would never allow someone into my life who could hurt them. My ex is just being a jerk all because I have found someone who makes me happy and he has found a life that makes him miserable. He was the one who left though.
Re:Just a vent no need to reply Samarra: Hi Amy, :)
Total utter jealousy...you're right. It kills him you have someone else...and doesn't that make you smile!!! Good for you!
Re:Just a vent no need to reply ti-poux: Hi Amy,

Good for you girl...I am glad you stuck to your guns...
All tha best

Chantal
Re:Just a vent no need to reply Cowboy12: you had a similar weekend to me AM.. I posted last night ..on the tell your story board .

Sat.
I had a great day with my kids, took them to the park, fed the ducks, etc....it was really sunny. I dropped them back to my ex, who was dressed like a model, she had being with her NM all day.....it hurts me when the kids talk about him. I feel I am the only one feeling PAIN. she seems so happy....

I got some great support when I rang my dad /mother, and the folks on OJAR...well I went over today... with a different attitude... I wasn't going to let her get to me.. She had to go to an AA meeting at 11 so I was over at 10, she said she would only be an hour, like yesterday she was dressed like a model on a night out ..fake tan etc. she was meant to be back at 12.30 , but didn't make it back until 3.40pm... I didn't ring her .she said she was in McDonalds with friends, I didn't care as I had a great day with my kids, I was dressed well today ...had a good colour on my face as yesterday was really sunny, and I felt good about me..

I think yesterday she got the reaction she wanted ...my face dropped when I saw how good she looked. Today I was determined to show that I was in control again.

I had a linen shirt with me, and I ironed it before i left, she asked me where I was going later.. I said I was meeting friends, [not true"> but her face dropped ..how could I enjoy myself too...that is her job.


I guess when we take our Control back ...these people dont like it ...what do they expect ...that we will stay miserable forever .... FAT CHANCE BABY !!

Here's to everyone on OJAR !!! ;) ;) ;)
Re:Just a vent no need to reply Shanna: Way to go!! Stay Strong!!