Re:So he says he called "her" again sourpuss: go ahead and cry. then help him pack.
you can sit him down and confront him, but i think you're wanting him to give you a reason not to kick him to the curb.
you know he's lying to you, now you just have to decide if you are prepared to live with that.
i think you already know the answer to that.
Re:So he says he called "her" again ColoHill: So, I got to see the bill today. There are no other calls before he called her. Not even "unavailable" ones (which do show up on the call detail). So, now what? I want to cry again.
So he says he called "her" again ColoHill: Night before last, my kids and I went to stay at my mom's so we could put together my little girl's party out there yesterday. My only night leaving him alone since I found out about him cheating and I was actually a bit nervous. We are supposed to be working this out (though we never talk about it). So yesterday morning, he tells me he called "her" that night and again yesterday morning. >:( Why, I ask him. He says he was getting all kinds of hang up calls last night with no number on the ID so he called to see if it was her and tell her to stop. It just seems a bit ironic that this all happens the one night I am gone but not any other time. I admit, the the day he called her to tell her to leave him alone, he had two calls at 3:30am that were hang-ups. But, nothing since then. Do I believe him? I have to wait two more weeks to get the phone bills to see what calls came in. I have a funny feeling that there won't be any unavailable calls on there. Then what? I want to believe him. I do. But, he broke every thread of trust I had when he cheated. Ugh! This is so frustrating! I mean, should I at least give him credit for telling me to expect to see her # on the phone bills because he called her? ??? Any advice would be appreciated!
Re:So he says he called "her" again Samarra: I'm so sorry...having someone cheat on you is hard enough, but, trying to work it out to regain the trust you lost is even harder.
I think you should wait the 2 weeks for the phone bill to come in before you jump to conclusions. This is going to be difficult waiting it out...but the simple fact is you don't really know yet. You only know what he has told you and if you want to stay together give him the benefit of the doubt. For now. Once you get the bill and you realize he was telling the truth or lying to you...deal with how you want to proceed then.
In the meantime try to stay calm or if you need to vent...do it here. We'll be here to help.
Re:So he says he called "her" again ColoHill: Well, I just talked to him and he said that he talked to "her" this afternoon. He said that she had got his voicemail and wanted to talk to him. I asked if he had called her after I talked to him yesterday (because at that time, he said he didn't leave one) and he said he did. He said that he told her he wasn't in the right frame of mind when he did what he did. He has a dedicated wife and two beautiful children and that what he had with her was done and over. He said that she was mad and went off on him because when I found out, I called her and left her a voice mail asking her to stay out of our lives. But, like I told him and her in the message I left, I don't know a single female stupid enough to get involved with a married man and not think they'll get a call from the wife if they get caught. I don't know. I will just have to wait for the phone bill and see what I see. I pray that he is telling me the truth. I want to give him benifit of the doubt but that is so hard. Thanks for the advice.
