im addicted to him BabygirlM: i dont know what to do, i need help. hes seeming to move on and i just cant. i keep calling etc. i want him for myself, i dont want him to have another woman. he treated me horrible, cheated on me etc. WHY DO I STILL WANT THIS MAN????
Re:im addicted to him hudson: hi babygirl,
i was reading through my journals from back in october. something that struck me was how i referred to my exw as an addiction. a serious one at that.
you know you're addicted to something when you insist on having a relationship with it regardless of how harmful it is for you, how negative it is. i never thought that i could be addicted to a person, especially one i loved so much.
but when i look at the symptoms, the withdrawals if you will, that's exactly what she is to me...an addiction. i went through 5 months of withdrawals, bad ones. now, although her memory and the memory of what we had remains, i am no longer addicted....i think. :-\
one little piece of advice i might offer you is this...leave the object of your addiction alone until you know that you can approach it with a healthy attitude and mind. right now he's bad for you, and until you can gain self control and the confidence to put your ex in perspective you must go cold turkey. the human drug...nice huh?
Re:im addicted to him riversandlakes:
asuming it's not a figure of speech, babygirl, he treated your worse than bad - horrible, and he cheated.
he is not good for you. do you want to spend more time with such a breed?
Re:im addicted to him Samarra: Hey babygirl,
I do so agree with the addiction theory. Like anything else love can be addicting.
The reason you want him so bad now? You can't have him...your "fix" is gone and you need it.
Try to relax...calm down...and think for a moment. Was it all that great with him? If the answer is no...then you'll know it's not him you want...it's the idea of what he represented.
Re:im addicted to him BabygirlM: thank you all so much
blazin: that is excactly it....and im so sorry you had to deal with 5 months of it
i cant believe people can be addicted to the IDEA of love.....its not even love since he doesnt love me....maybe its the idea of MY love. that i love him so much and he just treats me bad. this addiction to try to gain his love in return, because i deserve it!
