My mini housing dilemma jt5639: Alright - so here's my mini-dilemma. After the ex and I broke up, I was so depressed looking for my own place. This wasn't my decision, I couldn't afford much, studios looked so depressing, etc. I decided to find a house share situation. It would be cheaper, I'd have people around, I'd have a lot of space. I've been here for two months now and am considering leaving. Basically, I want my own space. I feel so temporary here - and I'm tired of my life feeling unsettled. Here's my pros and cons though:
PROS
Cheap - like $200 - $250 a month cheaper to live here - plus splitting utilities (I'm an artist, cheap rent helps me do more of what I love)
I really like one of my roomates - I get along with her very well - I get along with them all actually, but one particularly well.
There's a dog! I love her. And don't have to be responsible for her.
Big house - great view, very charming
Washer/dryer
CONS
Not my own space
The house is old, run down, really dirty - the landlord is really schmucky
I have a basement room - only one small window
The floor is thin - my roomate upstairs has loud sex all the time! Hard for the newly single.
Hard to not feel temporary here.
Not my ideal location
Here's the thing too - one of my roomates just announced he's moving out in August. If I say I'm leaving it would probably be August too - I feel so guilty doing that to the remaining roomates. They searched really long and hard for a roomate, interviewed me twice. Also - I just moved! I hate the thought of moving again - the actual packing/moving stuff. I also don't know if I can really afford my own place or find a nice place for what I can afford.
I just feel so unsettled and temporary here. I don't know if I ever won't. I don't know what to do. Any thoughts?
jt
Re:My mini housing dilemma Shanna: Maybe stick it out for a full year while saving up to get a place of your own. Set a date when you plan to be moved by. So you have something to look forward to. Try to do extra to make it feel more like home. Hang some pictures or something in your area so it seems more like yours.
I know what you mean about not having your own space. On three seperate occasions I have lived with my in-laws or my parents. Twice during my marriage and once when it ended. It was hard. I didn't have my own kitchen. I had my own room, but I felt so like a child or something. Like I needed more.
The first times I just had to wait 6 months for my husband to return from overseas. The last time I was trying to find a house I would like to buy that was in my $$ range. Move out time came well before I was expecting it.
I know you can make it thru this just think of it as a great way to save up so you have a little nest egg to fall back on when you do move.
