Re:uggh so frustrated! naynay: Just a thought, some of those "so called" perfect marriages are not that perfect. A woman I work with hates my guts (basically because I am single, have my own house, and manage to pay my own bills, and maybe because I am cuter than her) yet she is the one that was always running around yakking about how perfect her (3rd) marriage is, how perfect her life is, and how perfect her kids are. Then when you listen to the between the lines stuff, her kids got in trouble, her and her 3rd husband don't agree on alot of stuff, she is worried about bills because she has to take a minor paycut (they built a large house in an expensive area, and when I was talking about thinking about having my own swimming pool, she ran out and spent about 25 grand to have one built). Its funnier the more you know about her, she met her 3rd husband at work, when they were both married to other people, he got divorced because he cheated on his first wife, she got divorced for what reason I do not know, then they started dating and she pushed him to marry her. She always picked on me because I am somewhat frugal, I use coupons, drive an economy car, buy my kid's clothes on sale or clearance, and cooked dinner almost every night for myself and my kids because it costs so much to eat at a resturant. Now she is the one worried about money. and its pretty obvious that she is not nearly as happy as she pretends to be and most of our coworkers avoid her because she redirects her bad feelings about her life into picking on everybody else and backstabbing anyone every time she gets a chance. So sometimes perfect is just pretend.
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uggh so frustrated! EssieDotCom: Oh i'm so frustrated with happy people! i know that sounds horrible but i'm so tired of hearing from other women how great thier husbands are when my life and the marriage i once thought would last until I died, is nearly over!
okay i think i'm done now
Re:uggh so frustrated! sourpuss: it's cold comfort, but one day you'll be patting their hands across the table over tea saying "there, there" and telling them their stbx is a jerk....
Re:uggh so frustrated! penguinMAMA: I felt that way after my first divorce. I was miserable when everyone else wasn't and felt a bit like an outsider. My Granny(bless her heart) came up to me and told me as long as I was miserable, he(my first ex) won and I had given up.
That made me angrier and I jumped right back into dating to "get even". Eventually the ouch faded some and I didn't need to keep ripping a band-aid off to try and see if he was coming back, or if he was sorry. I was just trying to manage me and the kids the best I could and surrounded myself with happy people to just be normal.
Re:uggh so frustrated! EssieDotCom: right now i just need to get away from this man. he'll be back from his trip tomorrow, oh this should be fun, which means i'm gona pump out what hours i have left at work for my intership and get up on out of here!
