Re:too comfortable? fiz: what happened to your post riversandlakes?
Re:too comfortable? fiz: Well we did argue about things a lot but there was never much we talked about unless something happened. We do much more now. I think the biggest thing is because neither of us worked we where together all day every day. We didint live eventfull lives anymore. I know she is filling the seperation after last night and such. I think she thought that after we broke up she would be working and have lots of free time after work to go meet people and such. Well with a kid it doesnt work that way. Maybe eventually she will realize she doesnt have to look anywhere because I'm right here. I know the love is still there she just thinks things cant change. The more and more I think about things I think about how shitty I treated her and I am really suprised she didint leave sooner. But then when I think about that it makes me think she really must have loved me to stay that long and it confuses me that when I realize things and want to change she acts all unwilling. I know there is a such thing and to late but can it be to late when she still shows signs of loving me a lot? Her mother and father keep telling me "oh she will come around dont worry" and so does her best friend. How long am I suposed to wait for this? I must confess I have been on romaticplanet.com and talking to some girls and exploring things. I'm really afraid to try messing around with other people not because it might ruin me and her but because it doesnt feel right. I do know that when she sees that site on my computer or she shows up when I'm talking to my brother about it she changes her attitude and is the nicest person. Ive been researching even more on how to keep the spark alive. Im not a very creative man when it comes to romance but I want to be. I dont want to overbear her either so its little steps for now. Its been probably 2 weeks sinse I sent her a carnation which are her favorite flower. I might do it again. Not sure
too comfortable? fiz: I just need to ask this. I see a lot of people that say stuff like "we never have anything to talk about". Is there such a thing as being too comfortable? Like you have talked about just about everything possible and if days on uneventful you have nothing to talk about… That’s how I feel about my ex, her and me where together 6 years and we talked a lot in the beginning of our relationship but it was about music and stuff. What do you do after you have talked about everything? I love her dearly and we do have a lot in common. I've been trying to be very conversational when we see each other but when nothing happens during the day what do you talk about when everything else has been said?
I actually started reading a lot more news feeds to find things interesting. I think a lot of this new guy she has been seeing every so often is the "newness" of him and being able to talk about things because they haven’t before. She doesn’t see him often like less then once a week and she rarely talks about him to anyone so I don’t expect much from him. She sees me A LOT more then she does him she is just having sex with him.
I wish I was creative enough to write her more then the 1 short poem I did. Maybe I will try again; something has to come from all this emotional rollercoaster I'm on.
Re:too comfortable? mine: seems like you and i are in the same boat
but you are creative
Re:too comfortable? in_search_of: I think that fiz, you are right that her enfatuation with the new guy is that he is new. I think that eventually all couples will get comfortable, I think that is the challenge, finding things to keep the spark alive, finding ways to make one another happy, to keep one another interested. To find things to talk about, etc.
