a bad day

a bad day lewis0416: I guess Im having a bad day. I am sarting to accept the fact that he will never apologize or regret leaving me. After 15 years and 4 kids, I would expect him to be a litle sad. What is unfair is that while he was busy processing his feelings to dump me while we were married, I was busy taking care of the family. I even asked him if we were ok and he said that we would grow old together. The least he coulf of did was let me know so I could start healing myself. Its not fair that he got a jump start and got to leave when he had someone waiting in the wings for him. So now he is happy with someone comforting him and was never hurt by this breakup- while I am here in shambles trying to keep myself up off the ground and not fall to pieces. Its not fair. How come people that are not happy in their marriage have to cheat and find a new love interest before they will leave? I offered him the door way before he found someone else. Why couldn't he leave and then find someone. I dont like being someone's side show.
Re:a bad day Samarra: Because they are insecure, frightened people who's only thought is of their own well-being and pleasure...that is..if they have ever given a thought to anyone but themselves...methinks not.
There is a huge...humongous...difference in people who cheat once and realize they made a mistake...then there are the cretins who do it again and again...yes...these are the people who should be shipped to that isolated island (loved that thread!!)
Shed not a tear for them...or give them another thought...karma will get them in the end. Take this with a grain of salt...my ex cheated on me...and it's been one of "those" days.
Re:a bad day Samarra: Well...I think I may have stuck my foot in it again.
Sorry Lewis...I was just mouthing off...it really has been a rotten day.
Look...you don't know how he feels...his decision was to find someone else to cover the hurt rather than face the pain himself. No matter how you look at it...it's cowardly and dishonest.
You're right...when you showed him the door the first time...he should have left and spared your feelings. Instead he chose to hurt you even more.
You are better off without him hon...you will go through hell...but eventually realize this in the end.