potty training with only two week days kimura321: Any potty training advice out there. My three year old is getting too old for diapers. I have made a bit of progress with him, but since I only see him two days out of the week, it's very slow progress(I don't think he gets any training with the ex-not trying to talk bad about her-but he isn't progressing at all).
I can get him to do it in the toilet if I time it right, but he just doesn't have the concept down. Once he gets the concept-I can do the aiming for the cheerios bit.
Well- sorry if this post is a bit off, but I figured with all the single parents on here, at least 1 person has been in my boots and can shed some light on this.
Re:potty training with only two week days Suddenly Single: The aiming for cheerios I hear is a good bit....I hear cheerios are a miracle food - can be used for just about anything for kids!
How bout putting green food coloring in the toilet - when he goes it will change color...of course only for #1 !
Have you and your ex talked about what she is doing? Maybe you guys can come up with a plan together - she might be having the same frustration as you?
Good Luck! SS
Re:potty training with only two week days allmixedup: When my ex and I were potty training my son we tried using the pull-ups at first and then just asked him a lot if he had to go potty or just put him on the toilet like once an hour. He did go in the pull-ups a little too much, but I think that is because they still felt like diapers. One day after doing that for a while my ex just decided to put regular underwear on him and it was like magic. He didn't want to go in his big boy underwear and started going in the potty all the time. When he does go on the potty make sure you give him lots of praise because then he gets excited about it.
Re:potty training with only two week days jillieb44: I think the best thing is not to make a huge hairy deal out of it. Kids will use the toilet when they're ready. Why turn it into a huge power struggle??
My daughter was never interested in using the potty. We had the potty chair, tried a few things, she just flat out wasn't interested, too busy playing to listen to her body. And she was at the top of the growth charts. When she was nearly 4, still not using the toilet, she had the most horrific diaper rash one day. I told her that she needed to wear 'big girl pants' (we'd bought some hoping she'd want to wear them, they were some cool print she loved at the time) for a few days until her butt healed. She had a few accidents but then that was that. Night training she was nearly 7 and still wearing goodnight pants. She just was such a sound sleeper that she wouldn't wake up until she'd wet the bed. We never made a deal out of it, just cleaned it up and went back to the good night pants.
My son was maybe a few months past his second birthday, when he proudly announced he was going to wear underwear. (Same deal, we'd put a potty chair in the bathroom, showed him how to use it once or twice, made no big deal about it at al). I gulped and said, okay, and he didn't have any accidents. That was that for him. A week later he said he didn't need diapers at night either. After my daughter's issue, I was skeptical, but he never had a nighttime accident ever.
Esp if your child is having some anxiety/upset about the whole family split thing, I wouldn't make a deal out of it at all. Our whole society revolves around making kids grow up too fast, to be more easy and convenient for the parents, without really taking the child's own needs into account. If he/she is dealing with other issues, potty training may be the last thing on their minds.
My two cents.
Jillie
Re:potty training with only two week days MsLonely: Hmmmm, that is tough. Maybe he just isn't ready yet? All kids are different. My oldest wasn't trained until she was 3 1/2 and her father and I were still together at the time. Maybe try talking to your ex and developing a potty training plan. You don't need to make it sound like you are accusing her of not putting in any effort. Just approach it as you wanting him to have consistancy so you want to be on the same page as far as the method you will be using to train him.
It had been hard for me because I was trying to train our youngest and she would do good for a few days and then stbx would get her and put her in diapers and when she would get back I would have to start all over again. I finally ended up having her for 3 weeks straight and got her fully trained and this last time he picked her up I didn't send him with any diapers and let him know how good she had been doing. Turns out she only had one accident while she was there. I know it is harder for you because you don't have them the majority of the time, but try talking to your ex and see what happens. Good luck.
