Re:How do you not get sucked in? sourpuss: cultivate a look of vague confusion and ask the ex to repeat what they say a lot.
pretend you absolutely no idea what the swear words mean and ask to have them explained to you.
and smile a lot, it'll piss 'em off.
How do you not get sucked in? Suddenly Single: When the ex is using kids to get back at you and is all sorts of crazy and irrational - how do you not get sucked into the craziness and be crazy yourself or inadvertently start doing the same s**t they are because they are so dang manipulative and well...crazy?
How do you when you know the kids are hurting and being put in the middle and told things they shouldn't??
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Re:How do you not get sucked in? amola: isn't it fun? lol
you have to try not to react.....don't let the ex get the best of you.....
come here and post and kick and scream and vent about the craziness......we'll give you some ideas of calm reactions.......
and just talk to the kids......they aren't going to understand everything that's going on, but just let them know that you love them.....reassure them......and don't badmouth the ex, as tempting as it might be!!
hang in there! {{{HUGS}}}
:)
amola
Re:How do you not get sucked in? tyrogers: I just keep my calm and do not allow myself to get sucked into it. Trust me, it is hard....but I just go with the flow. Then, after it is all said and done, if I want to scream or beat the shi! out of something, I do it outside away from the kids. ;D
It's hard. Trust me. My ex drives me INSANE! However, I have found that when I do not react to his BS, it irritates him more. So, that is what I do. Just keep your cool. Keep your calm. BITE YOUR TONGUE when you want to explode! It's hard but YOU CAN DO IT!!!! I have faith in ya! :-*
Ty
Re:How do you not get sucked in? Smiley17: I totally agree with Amola here. Don't give into the temptaion of bad mouthing him too. It'll get you nowhere.
Remember - if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. ;)
I have to tell myself that every other week!
-KB
