CONFUSED!!!!!!!!! Blueyes424: Okay, here is my confusion.
My ex roommate dated a guy last summer, J, and things went well for them for a couple of months. Then in July, she decided to move back home to Florida (we live in IL) and they continued to date, mainly on the phone and through email. J had some more of her things that wouldn't fit in her car, so in September he drove the 15 hours down to see her, and within 10 minutes of him being there, she broke up with him. He was hurt to say the least, and so he dropped off her stuff, and came home.
He and I have remained friends over that time frame, seeing each other once or twice a week, until several months ago, when it went down to about once a month. About 8 weeks ago, we started talking more often again. He usually calls me 4 or 5 times a week on his way to work (he works 3rd shift) and he text messages me a lot.
He called me on the 3rd and wanted to know what I was doing for the 4th, and I told him I was hangin with the parents during the day, and I wasn't sure what was going on for that night. So after the parents and I got home from the pool, he called and told me he'd like to get together, so I said okie dokie, and we went to the fireworks.
When we got to the park, he preceeded to tell me that when he started dating, N, that he had hoped that it was me that was interested, and then told me that he's really interested and would like to date me. I am flattered, and when we parted ways at the end of the night, he kissed me more passionately than I've been kissed in MONTHS.
I am really confused though, because I don't know if dating him would be crossing the friendship line, since he dated N last summer. I don't know that it would be a good idea, but I don't want to throw away something that could be really good, either.
Then there's always the Bubba (not from OJar) issue, but I think I have a handle on that one.
So what do you guys think??? Give J a try, or stay away because of N????
Re: CONFUSED!!!!!!!!! jimloveless: you're worried about N? after she dumped the poor guy on his bottom? Why should that even be a concern? She made it quite obvious that he's not what she wanted. I'd say throw caution to the wind and enjoy yourself.
BUT HE'D BETTER NOT HURT MY BLUE. OR I'LL COME LOOKIN FOR HIM.
Re: CONFUSED!!!!!!!!! gulfcoast: n dumped him which makes him fair game....
if he had dumped n and broke her heart and she is your friend that would be a different story.......
get it while it's hot.......
Re: CONFUSED!!!!!!!!! Smiley17: Blue, I think before you do anything here, you should talk to N first and see what she would think.
If your friendship is valuable to you, it might be a good idea to get her input. Granted she dumped him, but when you mix boyfriends, it can get messy.
I'd use caution with this. You know how we ladies are! ;)
-KB
Re: CONFUSED!!!!!!!!! Samarra: Blue,
Wow...this doesn't sound like a good situation at all.
First there's the friendship issue....talk to her before doing anything...and still think twice. You're her friend...she may tell you it's OK with her...just to be nice.
This guy has me wondering too...is he telling you this now because he means it or because he is lonely and upset over being dumped and you'seem willing. Please be careful on this one.
