now he keeps calling

now he keeps calling izult: I knw that this would be a lot easier if i could hate my x but i don't.  I feel sorry for him more than anything.  He's seriously depressed and needs counseling but refuses to go saying that "i don't feel like i'm there yet"  While i don't think he would do anything stupid every time he calls he sounds more and more lonely and sad and it has me worried.  He called the friday before the holiday weekend and wanted to hang out.  when i told him i had other plans he almost sounded like he was going to cry.  He keeps calling, he says he can't come back to me till he's ready to stand on his own two feet, but wants me to move on with my life.  :-\.. i'm not articulating this correctly.  I'm frustrated that he doesn't seem to know what he wants.  I'm trying to move on, but i still  love him enough that it's killing me to watch him go through this.  I don't think i can talk to him again till he speaks to someone about his depression first though.
Re: now he keeps calling Samarra: Hey izuit,
I think you're articulating this quite well.
Depression is a hard issue to deal with...chemical imbalances ARE real...dsepite what some may think...and sometimes need medication.
Depression is also highly contagious...meaning...stick around a sad individual for a while and see how you feel.
Since you love him still it's only natural you want to help...but hon...you can't.  You can be there to listen...but if it's bringing you down...this is not healthy for you and you need to safeguard.
Take his calls only when you feel you can deal with him....when you can't...don't answer. If he wants to deal with you he needs to deal with him first.
Re: now he keeps calling sourpuss: a little tough love might do him some good as well.

consider telling him not to call untill he signs up for a little professional help.

it's hard, i know, but he will not get help until getting help is the only option.
Re: now he keeps calling izult: believe me i've thought about it.  Next time he does call i'm gong to confront him on it.  I haven't been home most of the times he's been calling which could be a blessing in disguise
Re: now he keeps calling Samarra: Be brave....it's great to be there for those you love...but when it takes a toll on you...it's time to distance yourself.