Should I send?? WhiskeyGirl: Heres a little background.....one of my pups got some type of infection and was VERY sick, didn't respond to antibiotics and so I asked my ex to take him in and have him put to sleep, I couldnt stand to see him suffer. Anyway he ends up giving the puppy to his mother who says she can nurse him back to health, Whatever, as if I didnt already do all that could be done ??? but fine. So she shows up out of the blue today, unanounced at my house and asks if she can borrow a shovel....so I say Oh did you have to have him put down? she says yes, I say Im sorry and get her a shovel, start to show her where my horse and the other 2 puppies where buried, beside the house, Id planted wildflowers and everything. She says hse'd like to bury him in the field down by the creek if thats okay....no problem I say, just make sure you dig a deep hole so nothing digs him up, then I leave her to it. Then a hour ago I get a phone call from my ex all pissed off because I was rude and cold to her when she was here!!! WTF! ??? Anyway as tired as I am of all her crap I do try to keep the peace and so want to say something while I DO NOT feel that I was cold or rude to her. So heres an e-mail I'm thinking of sending......what do you guys think? should I send it or no?
Hi J,
Not sure what to say here except that Im sorry you feel I was being cold and rude to you today. Im not really sure why you got that impression but it wasnt my intent. You have known me long enough by now to know that I am simply not the kind of person who runs over and gives others "big hugs" its just not me. I did what I would have liked for myself when I am upset and that is left you alone to bury the puppy and grieve in your own way. When I figured you'd had enough time on your own S and I got ready and came out just in time to see you drive away. I am sorry you felt I was cold but I cannot apologize for being the person I am, thats just me. I suppose mabey I should feel worse about the puppy being put down but to be honest, at this point I am pretty numb to death....after Kailey, then losing the first 2 puppies and then my horse, I just dont have any more tears left, I greived for that puppy the night I told C to take him in, I thought he would be put down then and so I remained detached in order to save my own sanity. I am sorry for your loss, Im sure you got attached to him in the time he spent there. Once again, it wasnt my intention to be cold or rude, I was only doing what I thought was best and that was give you some space. I do think it would be better if, in the future, you have a problem with me you could voice that to me and not C, Im pretty sure he is tired of being put in the middle of our sh!t. Anyway, Im sorry.
T
Re: Should I send?? AfterMath: From the way you described the incident WG it doesn't sound like you were rude/cold at all.
I'd send it.
Re: Should I send?? amola: you were not rude, cold, or anything of the sort.
send it.
Re: Should I send?? gulfcoast: Well written.....
I'd send it.......
Re: Should I send?? WhiskeyGirl: Thanks guys.....I sent it :) Now just waiting to see if I managed to head off another attack of the ex monster-in-law ::) LOL
