Can't Take Much More vonmon69: I really can't take much more of this. My life is in shambles, and I'm only able to keep it together because of my 9-month-old son. My STBX is still living in my house even though he's cheated (and is continuing to cheat) with one of his coworkers. To make matters worse, he sits right in front of me and text messages her back and forth all night long. I've asked him to stop, but he said he's afraid he'll hurt HER feelings!!!!!!!!! I mean seriously . . . Then the icing on the cake was he got mad at me last night because I was upset, so he told me he was leaving and going to her house. This was the third night in a row he's left me to take care of OUR son all by myself, and when I said that, he just told me to get used to it because that's how it'll be when he leaves for good.
Who is this person that I used to love and adore? And why do I still love and adore him even though it's not even him anymore. What's sick is that all I want is for him to come home and hug me and tell me he's not leaving. I just need a few kind words - I'm feeling so down and so weak right now.
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Re: Can't Take Much More sourpuss: hang in there, this too shall pass.
when's he moving out?
Re: Can't Take Much More candlesnfire: I can totally relate to what you are going through. My husband is cheating on me....and every night, I get to watch as he chats to her and texts her. I feel like he is taking the best of me. My heart goes out to you and just remember that we have all been there, and some of us ARE there....you are in my prayers! You are an amazing woman for taking care of your son in this difficult time, and please try to see the light at the end of the tunnel, that's what I am trying to do, take care of yourself and don't waste any more energy on him!
Re: Can't Take Much More gulfcoast: Sorry you are going through this...he sounds like he is a real @sshole....
I know it is hard, but somewhere you are going to have to find strength....
you are probably dealing with self esteem issues like most people in your situation are after being cheated on and then him leaving everynight to go to her....
He is walking all over you because you let him...
He likes it when you get upset that he is leavfing and when you get upset because he is texting her...he is feeding off of this......
act like you don't give a $hit about it anymore
just smile when he does it...act like you don't care if he leaves and goes to her..
if there is anywhere you can go till he leaves for good, then I would say go there instead of being tortured daily.....
the best thing right now is to know that you deserve better and that the crap he is pulling is no reflection on you....it is hard to get strong......but you are going to have to.......I wish you the absolute best...
keep posting here to help yourself along...it is good to talk about things..
there are lots of great people here that are going through some of the same things you are....
Re: Can't Take Much More candlesnfire: BTW, I do understand that not wasting your energy on him is easier said than done, I am doing the same thing...begging him not to go, to love me, to stay with me and not give up on our marriage, it's awful.
