Well, a good thing happened yesterday brokenman: Alright, as much as I wanted my marriage to work I have come to the blaring reality that it is truly over. Sure I filed weeks ago thinking I was doing the right thing but still having doubts. Now I am more confident than ever. Why am I so confident? Well, I'll tell you.
My s2bx called me yesterday to go through a litany of issues over the divorce and our daughter. During the conversation she said that our daughter told her that "I don't want to come back over until Friday because daddy is all alone and I have to take care of him." Well, for the first time in a conversation with my s2bx I actually spotted a blatant lie and called her on it. There is no way in hell our daughter would say that. She and I talked about it later and I was right. Our girl talked to her mother for about 30 seconds, just long enought to tell her mother that last weekend was too long and boring to go back on Tuesday.
Anyway, this was just one time, but I have been told by almost everyone we know that my wife lied to me constantly. I never saw it before. But now I am seeing the truth and trusting myself to make the correct judgements rather than take my wife's word all the time.
On top of all that, she called back later in the day to talk about other drivel. At the end of the conversation she said rather bluntly, "Let me come back home." Alright, I may have been confused if she had apologised for the affair(s) and tried to reconcile, but she was half-asking, half-telling me to let her move back in. I was shocked. All I could say was, "What did you just say?!?". Rather bluntly she retorted, "You heard what I said." I was shaking off the stunner and simply said, "No. No, I won't do that."
Man it felt good. I am still confused by her, but I am not confused about what I am doing. Sure there will be bad days again, but I feel really good right now. I am so empowered. After years of saying yes to everything she wanted and believing anything she told me I am finally able to think on my own and tell her NO without feeling bad or worrying about what she will say or do. What a relief.
Re:Well, a good thing happened yesterday heelblue: Glad to hear you are staying strong there. Just remember to always stay true to yourself. You will be much happier in the long run!
Good Luck!!!!!!! ;D
Re:Well, a good thing happened yesterday Safetykc: I agree with HB...You are doing great BM!!
Stay strong and hang in there!
Safety
