social inebr: Hello all.
I thought about posting on the dating board but this extends beyond dating or talking with men. I don't know, I have noticed myself feeling hot and cold around people these days. Some days I feel great and confident, sometimes meek and scared, some days I feel angry and frustrated. I am functioning fine I'm good at acting "as if" when I'm having a bad day...
I guess this might be part of the whole process of what I have been going through over the last year or so. I know I have changed a lot, not fundamentally, but in how I am learning to see myself and other people and relationship, everything has changed me a lot in this last year and I have to say, honestly, I like myself better today. So that's a good thing. Perhaps that's part of it. In some ways maybe I'm not sure of how to relate and am still getting used to some of these changes and how they affect the way I interact and maybe there is also some discomfort of this new stuff, hence, feeling nervous and unsure at times, not quite sure.... I dunno, anyone been going through that?
Re:social JimB: Only every day of my life... ::)
I've always been like that. Question for you: do you think this hot and cold thing is actually new for you, or do you think you're just noticing it more now since you're more in touch with yourself?
One thing I've been trying to do is like myself more even when I'm grumpy or antisocial. After all, there's nothing really wrong with those things. And I can't really help being grumpy once in a while. (Some would argue that I'm grumpy more than once in a while.)
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Question for you: do you think this hot and cold thing is actually new for you, or do you think you're just noticing it more now since you're more in touch with yourself?
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I think that this is part of my personality to a certain degree. I tend to be somewhat cynical about people and situations a lot of the time but I truly don't mean harm and even feel very warm inside towards people and am sensitive at the same time to other people's problems and pain. ...if that makes any sense. Liking myself is important and being a good friend to myself helps. Sometimes it's just hard because I don't want to hurt people and don't like the idea of coming off as being cruel or cold. I dunno, ...
I think this has gotten more intense as I have become more aware of me (sometimes I'm painfully aware of me) and as I am trying to become a better version of me. I think I am trying to figure out what to keep and what to throw out and what things I don't know if I can part with because they are too much a part of me. It's like trying to become a better and more functional person without losing myself or opening myself to bad situations. I've always been a little more than average in being anti-social and awkward and I'm ok with that. It's part of my charm ;)
Re:social INCT: inebr,
I noticed for awhile, that I didn't like people in general very much. I just didn't want to be around anyone, but I really didn't like people, their actions, words, etc.
It has lifted, I have worked through it, I guess it was just a phase of sorts. Tha's been my experience.
Re:social galil: JImb grumpy?
Nah can't be ;D chick magnet maybe, but not grumpy ;D
