Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past?
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Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? Berries: Gulf Coast:
so you've been asked by previous lovers?
who's was bigger?
and the one's that asked seemed insecure?
the ones that didn't ask knew how to use it?
My reply:
Yes.
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? browngreen: I agree with that... that it's good to know the basics of romantic involvements and sexual entanglements from before. Plus, it can be really fun to talk about!
But I don't think details are necessary. BUt this really depends on how open and willing to share with confidence my partner is. I think most people have been judged by SOMETHING in their past, so most people don't share about it really openly in fear of it costing them. Me, I don't take it personally if my H never had a one night stand, or if he had 20 of them. My son's dad slept around a lot, my H didn't at all. But how could I use that as a gague for anything that ends up mattering to me?
I do ask if they have ever cheated, and also about the first time they ever had sex, and who was previous to me. I ask the STD questions if they aren't asked first.
Neither one of them had ever cheated, but that didn't stop my son's dad from cheating on me. And it didn't stop my H from having his other problems. There's a lot more trouble a relationship can get into than affairs or sexual incompatibility. Sex is the easiest thing to work on in a relationship, I think.
At this point, I'd take a relationship that needs it's fire relit to one as stormy as what my H and I have!
BG
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? jillieb44: No.
Jillie
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? Suddenly Single: umm. yea don't recommend it. The first guy I had this conversation with lied about how many to make it more than it was...I found out and was just upset that he felt he had to lie. I HATE and DESPISE being lied to about anything so yea...that was a good fight.
The second guy I had this conversation with...well I didn't want to know because again..the thought...UGH and then there was some miscommunication about what our definitions of sex were and yeah...that led to a mess.
They say curiousity killed the cat for a reason. You know a knife will cut you if you slice it across your arm...not exactly sure how it will feel...but you KNOW it will hurt.
Best to try to let the curiousity lie.
