Re: 21 Months Later boshea: When someone treats you like, that they don't deserve your respect....let alone the most precious gift of your love.
Peace,
Brian
21 Months Later Cassa: Doug,
Here we are 21 months later, and you still haven't been man enough to say you want a divorce. "Do whatever you have to" was your only response. Meanwhile we've both signed divorce papers and they are before the courts. But 21 months - almost two years - and you still can't give me the courtesy of saying the words and doing your part.
21 months later and you still say that night "never happened". Of course you might lose your job as a police officer for assaulting your wife. I know that, but even that day when we were completely alone you wouldn't admit it. I know the truth. I was there. Do you think you can fool me?
21 months later and you are still living in our house with all of our posessions. You are still trying to screw me out of the equity. You are still being unfair and expecting to take more than you give.
21 months later and you still want to hurt me. You still bring up painful memories, still make death threats, still try to intimidate me with your gun, still feel the need to tell me the details of your sex life, and alternate all of that with saying you never meant to hurt me and you want to be friends. I still cry every time we get off the phone.
I think what hurts the most is how malicious you are. Sure, I take it personally that you hurt me, but I also step back and look at it more objectively. Even if I wasn't your target, it still saddens me that you would treat anyone that way. Ten years ago, I thought you were the most noble person I had ever met. I thought you were good to the core. I am so disappointed in the man you've become.
21 months later and I still don't believe anything you say. 21 months later and you're still lying non-stop. 21 months later and the war wages on.
21 months later and I still love you... but you are going to lose me forever. 21 months later it has gotten to the point where I will never speak to you again once this is done. (Thank God we don't have children.) Because 21 months of bullying, lying, intimidating, and mindgames have earned you my contempt.
21 months later and I'm still hoping for a miraculous turnabout.
Re: 21 Months Later abc123: i read your later, and im sorry to hear your husband did that, its really saddening.
i can only try to understand your pain.
your letter seems different from the others i have been reading becuase (correct me if im wrong), you wnat him to just be a man about all of it now and stop dragging the whole thing on. the other ones i read are just venting...
its really makes me sad, it really does. i really hope you are feeling better, and i hope that you can move on from this as soon as possible....
take care bye
Re: 21 Months Later Lumpy: Dear Cassa,
I hate to say it but where Mr. Man is concerned it may as well be 21 years. I wish that he could find it in his heart (If he had one) to treat you with some respect.
Re: 21 Months Later Cassa: ABC, I think I am still venting, but in my case I feel disappointed much more than I feel angry. But, yes, I do want him to take responsibility and I do want this to move on. Lumpy is right, though. If I actually expect that to happen, I'll be waiting a very long time.
