Re: When to start dating? qualt: yeah i agree with gulf, although i must say that i have only been seperated for 2 weeks and i would like a female to talk to and hold and maybe even sleep with (i mean actually sleeping not sex) but obviously a realtionship would not be fair to someone. Maybe if you found someone willing to be a cuddle friend and you didnt take it to far but thats probably not good either, it would feel good though to have someone to be there for you like that while you try to cope with things.
by the way freovir i like the refrence to canada being a third world country. mad props
When to start dating? JillR: Ok, I am not even divorced yet but have been seperated from my ex off & on for a couple of years.
I want so badly to find someone to just hang out with, have fun, etc., but I think that I may scare off men b/c I have 2 children.
So when was everyone ready?
Re: When to start dating? freovir: JillR,
I think this will vary depending on the person and the situation. I have been seperated since February and while I am ready to meet people of the female persuasion, I do not believe I am capable of providing what someone who is deserving of me deserves. I don't know when that will happen. I suspect it will hit me over the head like an anvil in a road runner cartoon. However, just because I am not looking for romance doesn't mean I don't "date." I go out with people to get to know them and interact with someone over the age of 8. I see nothing wrong with being "friends."
As far as scaring men off due to your kids. Maybe, but you have two kids and I wouldn't recommend pursuing anyone who will be scared off by them unless you plan on selling them into slavery in some third world country like Canada when the relationship gets serious.
Good luck,
--freovir
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Re: When to start dating? LostTeacher: it's taken me 9 months of seperation...but i think i could actually try to do it. actually had a crush on someone for the first time.....so a step in the right direction.
don't really have any dating prospects yet....but at least now my eyes are a little open!
Re: When to start dating? tyrogers: You go LT! Go get him! ;)
I did not scare off Bubba and I have 2 children....and two exes.....and Bubba has a child.......
Damn. We will be the Brady Bunch. LOL
I did not wait long at all after my divorce. Hey, I'm not getting any younger and I was not going to sit around and mope over a cheater! ;)
It will be different for everyone. When you are ready, you will know.
BBH
