How to approach someone bryce:
I go out every day/night that I can (and am not too depressed to just stay in bed) hoping to meet people, and like EZ's experience, all I see are other people having fun (and holding hands, or hanging out with friends) and it just depresses me even more...
But last saturday I say a cute, nice girl working overnight stock at the grocery store and I would like to meet her, but I have no idea how to approach her. I have said a few work-related comments to her, but I don't want to bug her at work or seem like a stalker or something. I would just like to get to know her, maybe get some coffee (or tea, in my case)...but I am shy, and it's not like you go up to a total stranger and ask her out, is it? And I don't want to scare her off or make her think that I am a weirdo or something. (I wish I worked there, because I would just like to take it slow and get to know her as a friend - see what her personality is like, and if she would like me...and if she has a boyfriend already, of course...and co-workers talk to each other all the time, casually...)
So, does anyone have any advice on how to approach this girl? I never reall dated much, and usually it was the girl asking *me* out.
Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated.
- bryce
Re:How to approach someone Buggs: Bryce,
There is nothing more attractive in either a man or woman than self-confidence, not arogance but self assurance and feeling good about yourself - so just be your self and good luck!
Buggs
Re:How to approach someone SunnyFlower: I agree with Buggs on that one, Bryce!
Speaking from a female point of view, here....if *I* were that stock girl and someone approached me in a nice way, I would feel flattered. I always think honesty is the best bet in my opinion. :)
"Hey...I've seen you a few times here, now, and was wondering if maybe you'd like to go out for a cup of coffee with me sometime?"
Just relax.....I think people can "pick up" on things like that and she'll know you are not some wierd psycho stalker if you just be yourself! ;)
Good luck!
Oh, and remember...there is a first time for everything!! How will you ever know if it could have worked out with her or not if you don't take a chance every now and then?? :P
Re:How to approach someone finney5: Hey Bryce, it sounds like you've already done the hardest thing, and that's initiating the first contact (just saying 'hi'). That's somewhat of a foundation to move onto Sunnyflower's suggestion. So it's not too out of the blue or random (or stalkerish). What's the worst that could happen?
Good luck, let us know how it went! ;)
Re:How to approach someone bryce: [quote author=Buggs link=board=6;threadid=1579;start=0#msg11566 date=1070027367">
Bryce,
There is nothing more attractive in either a man or woman than self-confidence, not arogance but self assurance and feeling good about yourself - so just be your self and good luck!
Buggs
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Great, then I'm *screwed*...or rather, *not* screwed... ;)
- bryce
