Hope... maybe lonelywithouthim: I broke down and answered a call from him Mom today. We talked for a long time, and the things that she said made a lot of sense. Joining the Navy IS the best thing for him and our family (if there still is one) and I realize that. She said that he called her today and said " I wonder where she is" I responded with a "good, he needs to wonder where I am for a change" and she agreed. It feels good to have the upper hand in SOME sense right now. I think he's realizing that I'm obviously doing better and moving on in a sense, as i'm not answering to his ever beckon call. I feel SO MUCH BETTER! This no contact thing rocks! It has also given me some hope, hope that he may realize what he's lost. His Mom wasn't too thrilled with the fact that he hasn't seen his daughter in going on 4 days. It's good for her to see that he's not Mr. Perfect. Although, I can't believe she had the guts to tell me that his attitude might change if we find out were having a boy, since he wants a boy.. WHAT IF WE HAVE A GIRL?! I don't want him back because of the sex of our child!!! Sometimes people are so dumb. Anyway, I'm going to stick to the no contact thing tomorrow also, but I know I need to be prepared for him to not TRY to contact me tomorrow. It feels good to hear my phone ring and know that he cares, but my mind will go 90 to nothing when I don't hear from him :-\ But today has given me hope for the future, and that is a good thing! So for those of you who are or have been in my situation, how long do you do the no contact thing? Until he leaves a voicemail saying he wants to talk, misses me, or something to that affect?? Do I ignore the first time he does this and wait a few more days? What if he doesn't do this at all? Do I tell him I want to work on things before he leaves for bootcamp, or do I let him go and maybe he will realize more while he's gone? This is the part i'm lost on...
