should i just give up? What2do: i guess ill try to make this short even tho i could go on and on...my ex(20) and i(22) were together 3.5 yrs..we have 2 beautiful little girls (21mos and 2 mos). up until about 3 months ago I thought our relationship was nearly perfect.
when i was about 8 months pregnant we broke up because he said he needed some time to clear his head. we got back together a few days later and he said he loved me more than anything and that he would never put anything before his family ever again. 4 days later we broke up again...we didnt speak until the day before our 2nd daughter was born. he told me he missed me blah blah blah...after she was born we got back together for about a month but we werent together like we were before...he was really distant and spent most of his time with his new 16 year old friends...so we ended up breaking up again for good this time...
we didnt speak again for about a week...i had moved an hour away to my moms house and he stayed at our house. the next weekend he was going out of town so I took the girls up there so they could spend time with their other grandparents...that monday i also had my post partum check up up there. after my appt i was tired so i decided to stay one more nite with my x-MIL..I woke up that nite at about 11 to find him laying on the bed next to Baby#2(she was sleeping with me) i thought i was just dreaming so i rolled over and went back to sleep..then i woke up a little bit later and he was sitting on the bed next to me holding my hand and crying. i asked him if he was ok and he said yes..so i told him he was making me uncomfortable, so he left..the next nite he called me drunk as a skunk saying that he just wanted us to talk and i was just acting like i didnt care..see usually i would run after him and beg him to talk to me. I told him i was done running after him just to get rejected. we ended up talking on the phone until 3/4 am for 2 weeks, he would tell me how much he missed me and wanted to see me ..then there was a hurricane coming so he decided he wanted me and the kids to stay with him during the storm. so he drove down and picked us up. but as soon as we got up there he ditched me for his tinytot friends that he sees everyday. after the storm i went back to my moms house..and he continued to call everynite but he started working again so our convos were much shorter now. after the hurricane weekend i stopped trying to get my hopes up so much...last week my youngest daughter had a doctors appt. so i drove up again ..after the appt I stopped by my MILs house and he came by to see the girls. when i went to leave i was just going to say goodbye and go..but he gave me a hug. then i tried to get in the vehicle again but he pulled me back and kissed me...then he pulled me back one more time and gave me another hug..then i told him i really had to go. he called that nite and i was still feeling strong..tuesday i wasnt so strong..i was really sad when we got off the phone, on wednesday when we got off the phone i called him back..i told him that i really missed him and he said "thank you" so i hung up.. the next day i was going to avoid his call but he never called. on friday i took the girls to stay with their grandma up there. some of our mutual friends stopped me and told me they werent sure but they thought they saw a girl in the truck with him...so i left and went back to my mothers...on sunday when i picked up the girls i told his mom what our friends told me and she said something to him and he never said yes or no. so i am assuming it was yes... on monday nite i went to a movie with one of my friends. my mom babysat..well he called and she told him i wasnt there.. the next day his mom called me and said taht he thought i really was there and just wou.ldnt talk to him. he hasnt called me since. I refuse to call him...I think it gives him to much pleasure to know how much i miss him. I dont know what to do...he was always so good to me before this...2 weeks before all of this started he said that God had done a wonderful thing bringing us together. he always told me i was the best thing that ever happened to him and how happy i made him...what happened??? Im so angry with him for doing this to me..but i cant make myself let go...somebody help me..
Re: should i just give up? tbird: sorry for what you're going through.
he sounds very messed up. very immature.
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I would do exactly what you are doing. put some distance between the 2 of you. dont answer his calls and just go on with your life. i know its tough. But he keeps reeling you back and then when you finally go back, he stabs you again. its not good. your priority is now your girls.
he can go wrot!
Re: should i just give up? little_sparrow: I don't normally say this but when I started reading your post, I thought to myself, there is another another girl involved.
Do the no contact. Give him the space to hang himself. I think if you leave him alone for a few weeks, he will come crawling back. But don't make it easy for him.
Re: should i just give up? What2do: do you really think there was another girl??? I really hope not..i think that sometimes but im overly paranoid about a lot of things...the town we lived in is very very small and i think i would have heard something if he was running around on me, but i could be wrong....I guess im just in denial...we were each others firsts...i cant even think of being with someone else so soon...I really hope he wouldnt do that to me.
