Dividing assets dgiirl: This is probably an obvious answer, but how did you end up dividing the assets? All the money/loans are pretty straight forward in our case. Add everything up, divide by two.
The part I'm wondering is how did you divide the crap in the house? I started packing up all of his stuff, stuff I dont want/need and is worth nothing. That was fairly easy because it was "his" stuff. Now I want to start packing up the other stuff. How did you guys divide the towels/plates all that crap? He's been saying we can work on this together for the last 3 months, and i'm sick of hearing him saying it with no actions. I dont exactly want him coming over to the house and help me pack. I feel like just doing it myself and getting it over with. But I was just wondering what the easiest way you guys did it? Did you guys compose a list, send it back and forth? That sounds so tedious and petty. There's a few things I know he wants, and I'm willing to give it to him. There's a few things I want, I already told him, and after 3 months, I finally took it out of the house and brought it to my parents. Since I already started giving him some of the stuff he wanted, I saw no need not to take my own stuff.
But now I just want to start packing up the plates/dishes/pots and pans so I can get the house clean for showing.
Re: Dividing assets sigkapgirl: If he isn't really helping you, and has been putting it off that long, I would pack up what you want and give him the rest.
My stbxh told me I could have whatever I wanted as long as I left the TV and the bedroom set (it was his mom's). So, basically, I took what I wanted. Left what I didn't want.
If he gets pissy about something, work it out then. Tell him you weren't trying to hurt him/offend him or anything, just wanted to get it done.
Re: Dividing assets sourpuss: it does no good to slash sets oh things down the middle, so instead of half the plates, half the towels, i'm going more for the give him all the plate, i'll keep all the towels.
my stbx is refusing to even discuss the division of assets, so i'm packing up what is "his", keeping what is "mine", then dividing up the rest as i see fit, with the caveat that if there is something else he wants/needs, he can bloody well ask for it, and we can negotiate at that point.
Re: Dividing assets Mooneyes: we split things up rather amicably, but didn't do it all at the same time. He got the blue towels and I got the green ones. he got the dishes that had brown on them and i got the blue ones. i decided who got what on those and he was amiable. He got most of the small appliances. I still feel though that we may change things around based on need. He has roommates and doesn't really need much though. We had a hard time spliting up the music collection. We worked on it, but didn't finish. So I am constantly finding myself missing music he has.
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We had a hard time spliting up the music collection. We worked on it, but didn't finish. So I am constantly finding myself missing music he has.
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lol I actually solved that problem by ripping all his cd's so he can take them if he wants.
Thanks for all your help guys :) This is pretty tedious and lame that it comes down to this. I guess I'll start packing stuff by collection and see what I will take.
