Re: On line dating...How does that work? Betizuka: I'm in the same situation, Half Full. Met someone online, things are going well and I feel happy. I have two words for you: Open and Honest
It is very easy to fall for someone you find you have things in common with, especially if you're both hurt and your hearts are wide open. You meet someone who listens to you and cares about you and the next thing you know, you're spending hours and hours online and you can't get enough of it. It can be good, but it can be painful as well, with the distance, the what if's, the not knowing what's going on when you don't hear from them.
That's why you have to be honest, share what you really feel, talk about the things you want, the things you're afraid of. Even when related to your STBX's, there are things that shouldn't be left unsaid because it's part of the healing process. I personally do not like to find about things that unsettle me and feel the person I like is not being 100% honest, but if you get past those issues and really talk about it, then I think it's OK.
Good luck! It can be a very rewarding experience if you try to get to know each other well, are patient enough to wait for the day you can meet and willing to work things out no matter what.
On line dating...How does that work? half full: Lets say you are 32 year old man.You are going through a divorce and you find a message board for people your own age in similar situations.And while you are getting help and great advice you start to spend alot of time instant messaging with a really wonderful woman.Lets also say this really wonderful woman whose conversation you have begun to cherish lives almost 2,000 miles away,making a traditional date a near impossibility. So what is online dating.I think that someone in that situation might think of every conversation as a date.Lets say this person hadn't been on a date with anyone but his stbx in 14 years and was completely confused by the whole process.What should that person do,I think he would want to continue enjoying the company of her conversation despite the distance.Any ideas.
Re: On line dating...How does that work? scraft: This is a tough situation to be in. So, you chat with a wonderful women who's conversation you cherish, and who lives 2,000 miles away from you..I personally feel that an internet conversation doesn't constitute a "date". Really, how can you have a date with someone when your not in the same room let alone the same state? There's nothing wrong with the date consideration to each their own. If you talk to an absolute amazing person that's great for you just don't get too carried away. The thing with the internet is you build that person up so high in your head that if the day ever comes to actually meet that person to put it politely they fall short. I'm not trying to take away your feelings or anything just trying to let you know what happens more often than not. I truly mean no disrespect to either you or this woman. I really hope the best for anyone who ends up in an internet relationship, and hope they work out for everyone myself included my bf and I met in a chat room, and have lived together for over a year. And, also if you develop strong feelings for this woman eventually you will find a way to make dating a possibility.
Re: On line dating...How does that work? AmyMarie1972: I agree that you continue to enjoy the conversations with one another and maybe one day arrange to meet, that is if she feels the same way. Be careful though if the two of you are going through the same thing right now that both of you would be ready to persue a relationship.
Good luck
Amy
Re: On line dating...How does that work? Suddenly Single: Continue talking and getting to know each other. I agree with Amymarie that you should be careful of both of you and your feelings during this time.
I've seen people on here connect very well and get what they need online but in person may not be the same....and I've seen people on here connect very well both here and on person. Either way the most important thing is give it time.
I think it is good that there is some distance because it will allow you to continue the friendship with no pressure. Good Luck to you SS.
