kicked in teeth again - how do I let go - Help judy: Why, why do I keep doing this??? Met my stbx for dinner tonight, during meal, he started talking about his OW and how she is selling her home in near by town to move to Portland to be next to him. I immediately welled up, couldn't stop the tears so I picked up my purse and walked out of resturant, leaving him there. Why do I put myself through that -- I need to let go, he is leaving me for this OW and I just can't let go.
Words of advice welcome
Judy
Re: kicked in teeth again - how do I let go - Help DownInTX: We tend to forget the hurt as time goes by. One thing you might try is writing down everything that you are feeling right now. When he asks you to go out to dinner with him again, read what you wrote and think about whether you want to expose yourself to that again. You have to learn to trust your own words when you read them later and not make excuses why it will be different this time.
You might want to tell him you want no contact unless he decides he has made a mistake and wants you back.
Re: kicked in teeth again - how do I let go - Help sigkapgirl: Kudos to you for getting up and walking out of the restaurant!
This has got to be so hard for you! I agree with DownInTX, maybe you can try no contact unless its specifically about the logistics of the divorce/separation. Or you could try only meeting in places where you feel comfortable. Also, you might tell him that you don't give a crap about the OW and for him to not discuss her with you! I think its odd that he's talking to you about her anyway. Its like he's trying to rub it in, and that's just not nice!
Stay strong :)
