I need some help LEFT my ABUSIVE GIRLFRIEND Failedjedi: Greetings Board
I have not been here long but have found it really helpful. I was in a on again off again relationship for over 3 years. In that time I went into debt 20 k on my X's word she would pay me back never saw a dime...
I had furniture, a GREAT cat named "spirit" and I lost that all as well , she didnt like the cat and wanted to move and either broke or stole my other stuff. I was determined to make it work because I did love her, we had alot of other people "mostly other men" messing with our relationship, I tried for over 2 years to break through to her through therapy and patience. Less then 2 months ago she went off to OMs house and didnt tell me. I begged for her to come back and she did for "the kids" more like she was caught when I left a message on his machine saying where is my gf she told me she was going to see friends.. Ya nice friends huh
Anyhoo we had alot of issues mostly hers were running to other men if she didnt get what she wanted when she wanted it. She used to swear at me , call me down and even hit me when she felt it ok for her. I could tell many things about this wonderful user but I wont.
I am so messed up from emotional and mental abuse from her....
2 days ago she found my medication I use for aniexty which was caused by her, and she threw them out now I am worried really worried I needed that stuff to keep a clear head. She threw it out because she was getting less and less control over me, I was more patient and kind on it BUT I was also standing up for myself so she threw it out.
She cleaned me out of my last pay and now I have nata for money , no cash for food cabs etc and to replace my meds for until next payday I can survive that I guess.
I told her for the last 2 months I need her to respect and treat me right, give me proper attention and become more affectionate in all ways. When we made love I was there to service her and I felt worse and worse every time we did make love... It was like she was sucking the very life force out of me.
I left last night after she ignored me basically for the whole night after I came home toke care of the kids gave her the last of my cash, I warned her for over 2 years to treat me right, I warned her the last 2 weeks I needed to feel loved.
She left a message on my machine at work , saying I was a fool for walking out on the family "I didnt walk out on our family I walked out on her , after fair warning" She said I should never call or come around again, she also said I was a deeply disturbed person and it was all my fault....
I want to be happy I want to feel someone kiss me and mean it once again, I want a friend and a lover in a person. I dont want a user.. I am scared she will get me when I am weak and use me again. :(
I COULD REALLY REALLY APPRECIATE THE HELP BOARD. I need it
Re: I need some help LEFT my ABUSIVE GIRLFRIEND whatnext: Hey man, You did the right the thing. She is has consistently manipulated you -- now don't let her manipulate you further. Cut off the communication except for child-related issues -- you'll feel better over time but as long as she is allowed to walk all over you she'll continue to. Now she is trying to use guilt and shame against you, which it sounds like you are suseptible to -- hence, the no contact.
Re: I need some help LEFT my ABUSIVE GIRLFRIEND Failedjedi: ya am I ever Man o Man I wish she didnt throw out those meds... she knows where to hit to hurt :(
Re: I need some help LEFT my ABUSIVE GIRLFRIEND whatnext: Wow that is really harsh. Just go get new ones. My Primary care doc would give me samples (did you know that uptake inhibitors are also PMS drugs?) -- maybe you can get hooked up.
Re: I need some help LEFT my ABUSIVE GIRLFRIEND Failedjedi: Ok thats not a good sign I want to check her messanger profile to see what she has put but I know it wont be goood.....
I know I should try and distance myself becasue I will be manipulated or hurt ...
Why the hell should I care, I know she is bad for me but why do I still feel love for her
