Re: Life altering experience riversandlakes: [quote author=Lumpy link=topic=17024.msg145555#msg145555 date=1123909474">
Tragedy etches it into your soul. You might not be happier. But you will be better.
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Thanks, Lumpy.
I know I am not truly happy. I may laugh at jokes, or listen and give thoughtful advice (hence can be concerned about others' well-being), but how does one become happy when a couple in front of me held hands and it struck home?
When I see various girls with small silver (might be platinum) rings on their middle fingers, yet mine took off the much thicker gold ring from hers? They just seem so committed...
I am indeed better. Career-wise, and EQ-wise...
Life altering experience no more tears: Hello people. Im just sitting here realizing i will never be the same again. This horrible breakup/departure from my life is changing me inside. I feel i will never get over her. Im sure ill meet somebody new...1 day far into the future...but she will always be in my head. This pain...this agony...im so sick of it....im at the point that i dont care if im ever happy again...i just want to feel normal. How can you miss somebody so much...how? Everything is so different now...my outlook on life is so different....im just not the same...i dont think i will ever be the old me again. Maybe thats a good thing, maybe it isnt. This has been a life altering experience for me....its made me wake up and realize alot of things and made me look at life in a different way. I now cherish little things that i took for granted...I now miss the hell out of certain things that were there but now are gone. I will never be the same....any of you out there feel this horrible time in our lives were forced to go through changes us for the better ?
Re: Life altering experience whatnext: Oh definitely. I was forced to change for the better. I can say I'm happier and stronger. I know myself a little better, and I don't define myself by somebody else's standards, or by my relationship to them.
Re: Life altering experience Change4better: WoW, the same exact thing your going through is what i'm going through....same stuff, However life may seems diffrent and changes happens, we all should reliase not to ever be in a comfort zone and always prepare for change as it always happens. What I'm trying to say is learn to let go of what isn't there anymore. I know its hard but i'm learning after 15years of marriage and now being seperate, life isn't that bad. I also know it doesn't feel normal, but then again what is normal? Being back to what it once were? just go with the change and remember that now that your alone you should experience what life has to offer.
Why wait for one person to love you when you maybe missing someone else that is willing to offer it to you. Think about it. if she wants to love you, she will come around, if not, someone else out there will bring you happyness.
Re: Life altering experience bjs2005: I've learned so much about myself and who I am since she left. I realized that she was supressing the real me and I am such a more wonderful person than I ever realized.
Equilibrium will come, it will just take time. Once you get off your knees and start walking again, you will see things a lot different. The pain subsides but the memory of the pain never dies.
